Dads You Can help
with Low libido
after childbirth
Remember
high school, when sex was
dark, mysterious, and largely theoretical? Being a new
parent is a lot like being a teenager again. You're ruled
by hormones, in this case, mostly your mate's.
Thanks to, sleep deprivation and fatigue,
breastfeeding,
postpartum depression,
or all of the above, her libido (and probably even yours) has
flown south for the winter, and you must lure it back.
That means, yes, you and your wife will have to start dating
again.
So
your wife is nursing, she's producing hormones that may
mildly suppress her desire. Nursing mothers also tend to
produce less vaginal lubrication, which can make intercourse
painful. Overall, though, the biggest culprits are fatigue
and time. Again, if she's nursing, she may be less than
enthusiastic about having someone else (in addition to the baby)
making a move toward her breasts.
As for what to do to increase her sex drive, there are a
number of possibilities, including:
Sleep...
Make sure she gets plenty of sleep. That may
mean that you get up and handle some of the
middle-of-the night feedings. The downside to
that is that you might end up too exhausted to have
sex.
Eat...
Help her eat right and get some exercise.
Down
time... Give her some down time. She loves
you and loves your baby but would probably give
anything to get a few minutes alone.
Flirt... Flirt with her. Tell her how great
she looks, let her catch you peeking down her shirt,
make a few sexy phone calls during the day.
Date...
Go out on a date. While you're out, make a serious
effort to go at least 15 minutes at a stretch
without talking about the baby. It's harder than it
sounds.
Lubricant... Invest in some lubricant.
Be
there... The greatest aphrodisiac for new mothers
is feeling cared for and tended to by their husbands
and seeing that their baby is being cared for and
tended to, as well. From your wife's point of
view, loving your child is an expression of your
love for her. The more you actively engage
with your baby, the more she'll want to make you
happy. And you know where that can lead!
Treats... Get her flowers or special gifts with sweet
words written in or on them from you, make her feel
special.
The more our partners are truly partnered, the better we
all feel.
Remember
high school, when
sex was
dark, mysterious, and largely theoretical? Being a new
parent is a lot like being a teenager again. You're ruled
by hormones, in this case, mostly your mate's. 
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