CaptHeather
10-19-2007, 01:26 PM
Buggles
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I thought that I would share the journey of my son, Drew. He lived 5 weeks and 4 days and was such a little fighter. I'm just going to copy and paste from his memorial website, if you'd like more detail, I kept a day to day (or every couple of days) journal of his progress at http://allaboutbabydrew.blogspot.com .
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Raymond and I decided to start trying for another child when Elizabeth was around 15 months old. We wanted about a 2.5 year age difference in our children and figured that it would take a while to conceive. It was important to me that Elizabeth have a sibling as I’m an only child and Raymond enjoys his siblings so much. That and the fact that we just wanted another child!
I discovered that I was pregnant around July 6, 2005. I was approximately 5 weeks along. We were so happy! However, the minute that I saw the first positive pregnancy test, I had a very strong feeling that something was not right. I tried not to let it bother me but the feeling never would go away.
On October 17, 2005, we went in for my routine ultrasound. The tech spent quite a bit of time looking and taking pictures. She had a student with her. With our daughter, we did not find out the sex until she was born. We were kind of waffling on whether or not to find out this time and I had decided that I wanted to know. It’s a good thing because the very first shot showed without question that our baby was a boy.
The tech said that she couldn’t get the views that she wanted so she went to get a radiologist. The radiologist looked a bit and then all 3 left the room. The student came back in and asked if I minded if she practiced on me. Of course not! That just meant that we got to see our baby even more! We left with no indication of any kind of problem.
I had my routine OB visit on Wednesday the 19th. My OB told me that they had problems getting a clear picture of all 4 chambers of the heart. Raymond and I found that odd because we clearly saw all 4 chambers ourselves. My OB gave me the name and telephone number of a perinatologist that I needed to call to make an appointment for a more detailed ultrasound. He was expecting my call. My anxiety level went up but I tried not to panic.
I called the peri’s office as soon as I got home and they WERE expecting my call and worked me in the very next day. We went for the ultrasound and got some 3D and 4D photos of our son, Drew. The perinatologist then came in and looked. He said that what the hospital had thought was correct—our son had a condition known as a congenital diaphragmatic hernia. I thought, “A hernia, no biggie, that can easily be fixed.”
Dr. Stanley then explained in more detail what we were facing and the picture was not good. They gave Drew a 50% chance of survival. We were told that the condition is genetic in about 25% of cases but based on our history, the odds that it was genetic were around 5%. We were then told that we had two options: 1) terminate the pregnancy, or 2) continue the pregnancy and see what happens. I told the doctor at that point that I did not think that termination would be something that I could or would consider.
We were shell shocked. There were a lot of tears, research and discussion done that Thursday night before we ultimately decided that termination was not an option for us. I told Raymond that even if Drew died in my arms, I needed to hold him and let him know how loved he was. I don’t think at that point that I knew how prophetic my words would turn out to be.
I decided to have an amniocentesis to rule out additional birth defects. The results came back clean and yes, we were definitely having a baby boy. My emotional state during the pregnancy was not great. All I could think about was how much I wanted my baby to be ok.
My OB care was fully turned over to the perinatologist and I saw him about every 3 weeks. In December, I began having horrible back pain. Nothing would ease the pain. I was much larger than I was when pregnant with my daughter and I was happy about that. She was full term and only 5 pounds, 11 ounces so I wanted Drew to be larger.
In early January, I was diagnosed with polyhydraminos, excess amniotic fluid. My AFI got fairly high and the main concern was pre-term labor. I opted to receive injections of betamethasone (steroid shots) and had to go into the office twice a week for non-stress tests until the end of my pregnancy.
Drew’s heart always sounded very good at the NST. It was decided that I would be induced around 38.5 weeks, March 7, 2006. I regret that decision now but at the time, it seemed like the best way to go. By attempting to “control” my labor, we could ensure that the entire medical team that was needed would be on hand.
My induction began around 1:30 a.m. on March 8. The pitocin stepped up my contractions considerably—there was no break between them and they were very short and intense. After about 9 hours on high doses of pitocin, I had only dilated to 4 cm. I decided at the point to have a c-section (another regret).
Raymond “Drew” Lewallen was born at 11:58 a.m. on March 8, 2006. He weighed 7 pounds, 10 ounces and was 22 inches long. He was a good sized boy! I heard 2 or 3 very weak cries and then they whisked him to the other side of the room and intubated him. I never got to see him.
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I thought that I would share the journey of my son, Drew. He lived 5 weeks and 4 days and was such a little fighter. I'm just going to copy and paste from his memorial website, if you'd like more detail, I kept a day to day (or every couple of days) journal of his progress at http://allaboutbabydrew.blogspot.com .
~~~~~~~~~
Raymond and I decided to start trying for another child when Elizabeth was around 15 months old. We wanted about a 2.5 year age difference in our children and figured that it would take a while to conceive. It was important to me that Elizabeth have a sibling as I’m an only child and Raymond enjoys his siblings so much. That and the fact that we just wanted another child!
I discovered that I was pregnant around July 6, 2005. I was approximately 5 weeks along. We were so happy! However, the minute that I saw the first positive pregnancy test, I had a very strong feeling that something was not right. I tried not to let it bother me but the feeling never would go away.
On October 17, 2005, we went in for my routine ultrasound. The tech spent quite a bit of time looking and taking pictures. She had a student with her. With our daughter, we did not find out the sex until she was born. We were kind of waffling on whether or not to find out this time and I had decided that I wanted to know. It’s a good thing because the very first shot showed without question that our baby was a boy.
The tech said that she couldn’t get the views that she wanted so she went to get a radiologist. The radiologist looked a bit and then all 3 left the room. The student came back in and asked if I minded if she practiced on me. Of course not! That just meant that we got to see our baby even more! We left with no indication of any kind of problem.
I had my routine OB visit on Wednesday the 19th. My OB told me that they had problems getting a clear picture of all 4 chambers of the heart. Raymond and I found that odd because we clearly saw all 4 chambers ourselves. My OB gave me the name and telephone number of a perinatologist that I needed to call to make an appointment for a more detailed ultrasound. He was expecting my call. My anxiety level went up but I tried not to panic.
I called the peri’s office as soon as I got home and they WERE expecting my call and worked me in the very next day. We went for the ultrasound and got some 3D and 4D photos of our son, Drew. The perinatologist then came in and looked. He said that what the hospital had thought was correct—our son had a condition known as a congenital diaphragmatic hernia. I thought, “A hernia, no biggie, that can easily be fixed.”
Dr. Stanley then explained in more detail what we were facing and the picture was not good. They gave Drew a 50% chance of survival. We were told that the condition is genetic in about 25% of cases but based on our history, the odds that it was genetic were around 5%. We were then told that we had two options: 1) terminate the pregnancy, or 2) continue the pregnancy and see what happens. I told the doctor at that point that I did not think that termination would be something that I could or would consider.
We were shell shocked. There were a lot of tears, research and discussion done that Thursday night before we ultimately decided that termination was not an option for us. I told Raymond that even if Drew died in my arms, I needed to hold him and let him know how loved he was. I don’t think at that point that I knew how prophetic my words would turn out to be.
I decided to have an amniocentesis to rule out additional birth defects. The results came back clean and yes, we were definitely having a baby boy. My emotional state during the pregnancy was not great. All I could think about was how much I wanted my baby to be ok.
My OB care was fully turned over to the perinatologist and I saw him about every 3 weeks. In December, I began having horrible back pain. Nothing would ease the pain. I was much larger than I was when pregnant with my daughter and I was happy about that. She was full term and only 5 pounds, 11 ounces so I wanted Drew to be larger.
In early January, I was diagnosed with polyhydraminos, excess amniotic fluid. My AFI got fairly high and the main concern was pre-term labor. I opted to receive injections of betamethasone (steroid shots) and had to go into the office twice a week for non-stress tests until the end of my pregnancy.
Drew’s heart always sounded very good at the NST. It was decided that I would be induced around 38.5 weeks, March 7, 2006. I regret that decision now but at the time, it seemed like the best way to go. By attempting to “control” my labor, we could ensure that the entire medical team that was needed would be on hand.
My induction began around 1:30 a.m. on March 8. The pitocin stepped up my contractions considerably—there was no break between them and they were very short and intense. After about 9 hours on high doses of pitocin, I had only dilated to 4 cm. I decided at the point to have a c-section (another regret).
Raymond “Drew” Lewallen was born at 11:58 a.m. on March 8, 2006. He weighed 7 pounds, 10 ounces and was 22 inches long. He was a good sized boy! I heard 2 or 3 very weak cries and then they whisked him to the other side of the room and intubated him. I never got to see him.