When did you stop offering information?

[Joyto5]

When November rolled around, 1 month before my little ENer turned 2, someone I was very close to, said someting nasty about nursing Kyle. Along the lines of it being Child sexual Abuse and if I didn't stop, she would turn me in.

That really scared me and for the first time I actully started to think about weening him. Didn't happen because my 2 year old had something to say about it. I'm so glad i didn't. Ever since then I will not offer information. If I'm asked if I've weened him yet I will ask Why? I'm not sure why It scared me so much.

As soon as I get enough courage to confront the person about it I want to give her some information on ENing and the laws protecting mothers. She's one that thinks nursing is discusting and sexual

Anyone else been faced with a situation like this?

[kasumisniper]

Interesting. What does the law say about this? Who was the jerk who said she would turn you in?

[Joyto5]

One of my Aunts. Been looking up the laws in Utah and this is what I've found so far.

http://www.llli.org/Law/Bills37.html

There isn't even a age limit.

10-8-41. Prostitution, lewd or perverted acts, gambling, and obscene or lewd publications.
(2) (a) A woman's breast feeding, including breast feeding in any place where the woman otherwise may rightfully be, does not under any circumstance constitute an obscene or lewd act, irrespective of whether or not the breast is covered during or incidental to feeding.
(b) Boards of Commissioners and City Councils of Cities may not prohibit a woman's breast feeding in any location where she otherwise may rightfully be, irrespective of whether the breast is uncovered during or incidental to the breastfeeding.

10-8-50. Disturbing the peace -- Public intoxication -- Fighting -- Obscene language -- Disorderly conduct -- Lewd behavior -- Interference with officers -- Trespass.
(3) (a) A woman's breast feeding, including breast feeding in any place where the woman otherwise may rightfully be, does not under any circumstance constitute a lewd or indecent act, irrespective of whether or not the breast is covered during or incidental to feeding.
(b) Boards of Commissioners and City Councils of Cities may not prohibit a woman's breast feeding in any location where she otherwise may rightfully be, irrespective of whether the breast is uncovered during or incidental to the breastfeeding.

17-15-25. Right to Breast Feed.
The County Legislative Bodies may not prohibit a woman's breast feeding in any location where she otherwise may rightfully be, irrespective of whether the breast is uncovered during or incidental to the breastfeeding.

76-9-702. Lewdness -- Gross lewdness.
(5) A woman's breast feeding, including breast feeding in any place where the woman otherwise may rightfully be, does not under any circumstance constitute a lewd or grossly lewd act, irrespective of whether or not the breast is covered during or incidental to feeding.

76-10-1229.5. Breast Feeding is not Violation of this Part.
A woman's breast feeding, including breast feeding in any location where the woman otherwise may rightfully be, does not under any circumstance constitute a violation of this part, irrespective of whether or not the breast is covered during or incidental to feeding.

I'm starting to feel a little more comfortable! I think I will even start NIP again if we feel he needs it!

[larzyrog]

I was just at a breastfeeding conference meeting to and we where talking bout other ppl saying you should stop bf bc it is to long for a toddle to be nursing. but i think that u can bf as long has you want. i would not listen to ppl who tell you to stop bf your toddle. i wish you the best

[Jazmyn]

Negativity seems to hurt us even if we hold a strong front and provide education to the ignorant (

I have tuned people out now when they say negative things... not worth my energy.

[kasumisniper]

Sadly enough I thaught that way to an extent before I started bfing. Then I realized how non-sexual breasts really were in the area of nurseing. I don't think those people understand the true feelings of babies when it comes to the breast.

[Jacksmommy]

Your aunt is the one who has a problem. Nursing a 2 year old - or whatever age nursling - is fine. Don't let her worry you. I never stopped telling people I nurse Jack. There is no one I know who hasn't seen me nurse him. He'll be 3 in February.

[kasumisniper]

Continue as long as you and your baby need to.:hugegrin:

[Joyto5]

Thanks for the words of encouragement. Now that I know the laws I'm much more comfortable NIP again and when he needs the comfort.

[kohlby]

I still nurse DD in public and no one has said anything about it. She'll be 2 in May. I don't nurse DS in public - though he'll ask for "breastfeeds" when he gets hurt. I'm not sure if those around me don't understand what he says or if they just don't want to ask! (His speech isn't perfectly clear). He'll be 5 in May and asked to nurse in public last just two days ago at the park in front of other parents.

[heavenlybutterfly2007]

Your aunt is the one who has a problem. Nursing a 2 year old - or whatever age nursling - is fine. Don't let her worry you. I never stopped telling people I nurse Jack. There is no one I know who hasn't seen me nurse him. He'll be 3 in February.


yep same here.
keep your head up!

[pattyk]

I think I still NIP when my dd was 3 but very rarely. I stopped telling people I was still nursing her when she was 3. I stopped telling family I was nursing her at 4. Well actually, I now follow a "DON'T ASK, DON'T TELL" policy! She's 5 years 2 months and is still nursing.

[steelady]

I feel that those who are comfortable should speak up; I often talk about how long I nursed my son (33 months). If people don't hear it, they will continue to think it is "weird".

If one doesn't feel comfortable, there are subtle things one can do, high five other moms, nod in agreement when someone else speaks up, stuff like that.

[KaraJ]

Joy, I'm glad you looked up that law. I'm in Utah, too! I've been debating with myself if I should nurse in public.... I think I will. :) I wonder what Washington's law is.

[Clausius]

Next time, just look all confused and say, "That's strange. I wonder why the American Academy of Paediatrics and the World Health Organization would endorse sexual abuse?"

[KaraJ]

Clausius, that's perfect! I'll have to remember that one!:D

[Jody84]

Next time, just look all confused and say, "That's strange. I wonder why the American Academy of Paediatrics and the World Health Organization would endorse sexual abuse?"


Some people just don't understand! What a good idea :)

[Daisy]

:hug: How completely hurtful and scary to hear something like that from someone in your life whom you love! I breastfed Antonia for 4 years and 1 month, most of my family did not know she nursed that long until long after she was weaned. I got to a point of just not bringing it up and people usually didn't either, but my relatives all lived far enough away that I only got to see them once a year, so it wasn't a big issue. I am not sure what I'd do with your aunt, I'd either give her the facts and the laws to protect you, or just leave it alone and not talk about it at all, but either way I'd let her know she hurt you.

[LianeV]

There's a La Leche League article entitled, "Responding to Criticism" that's really good. You should be able to find it and many more at www.llli.org . Just type the title into the search box and that should bring it up.
Fortunately, many of the people who are our worst critics turn into our biggest fans as the years pass. I nursed my oldest for six years and now that's she's grown, I've had several tell me they thought badly of my for nursing her so long, but see that it has worked out just fine.
Just try to educate (those who will listen) with fact based information. Make sure your husband, mom, or any other close support persons understands the reasoning behind Ext. BF too, because often those who are uncomfortable with it will go to them, instead of you, with their concerns. So, give your protectors something to arm themselves with.
Generally, though, just let the bad vibes from these people just roll off your back.
Happy Nursing!