CaptHeather
10-19-2007, 01:50 PM
Kerry
Member
That your pregnancy would end in a miscarriage?
First, I want to say hello. I didn't even realize this forum existed until today. It caught my eye. In case you don't post on the debate forum and haven't been following my saga, I just had a miscarriage yesterday. I found out at 11 weeks that the baby died at 7 weeks, and I miscarried about 3 days later.
The whole time I was pregnant (or before I realized I was no longer pregnant), I had a feeling of impending doom. I didn't quite believe I was pregnant. I continued taking pregnancy tests well into 8 weeks, a whole month after clinical confirmation of a pregnancy. I refused to go to the store to look at baby things, and I refused to make any baby purchases. It felt wrong and naughty to discuss baby names, and I always felt vaguely shameful discussing the baby with my husband. I think I just knew it would end this way, even after my OB saw the heartbeat at 7 weeks. Do you think that's possible? Did anyone else feel that way with a pregnancy that ended in miscarriage?
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Flora
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Again Kerry I'm so sorry. Yes I do believe that. I never bought anything for Avonlea. I kept telling people at work not to do a baby shower until she was born. I would tell them you never know what could happen. I was right about not having a baby shower and i'm glad I didn't. I have lots for stuff for her but Prisca brought them up. I wish you peace in this.
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Kristen
Member
Yes, I believe that is very possible.
I am so sorry for your loss, I did see your post on the debate forum and I hope you are doing better.
I have never had a miscarriage but I did lose a baby when I was 22 weeks and the whole time I just had a feeling that something wasn't 'right'. I couldn't explain it, it was just a gut feeling. While I was shocked and devestated when we found out that something was wrong (at 19 weeks) I wasn't too surprised...sure you never think it is going to happen to you and even when you have those 'feelings' you try to push them aside.
We found out something was wrong w/ our baby at nearly 20 weeks and I hadn't made any purchases, plans or anything for that baby. Most women by that point have done something in preperation, but I just couldn't, I guess I knew without really knowing.
Intution is really a powerful thing. You might not want to believe what you fear is true but in my personal experience it has never been wrong.
Again, I wish you the best and I am so sorry for everything you have gone through these past few days.
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Mommy to Hailey Ann (9/6/2004)- BF for 18 months
Mommy to Cole Vincent (4/15/2007)- Boob man
Our baby, Scott Peter, carried for 22 weeks. Went to the angels on 3/12/2006.
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I think so too. I m/c in December. It was very early on, but it just didn't feel "right".
Even when talking with dh about it, I would say "if I am pg". It was like I never would accept it in my mind that I was.
All of my pg tests were faint - I took 4 or 6 of them. It wasn't like that with my other 2 dc, so to me, I sensed something was wrong.
When I started spotting, I knew what was happening. DH was hopeful that it was nothing, and insisted that I call the dr. I wasn't able to get in until the next day. In the meantime, I heard many stories and glimmers of hope from others who spotted and went on to have healthy babies. But I knew what was happening, there was no "saving it". All of and their stories were just kind of dragging out the drama for me. I just wanted to know if I could use my Diva cup or did I have to use pads? I wanted to get it over with and move on.
Then when it was OK for me to start TTC again and was unsuccessful that first cycle, I was just so bummed out. I told my friend that I just wanted to "get my baby back". And like I said, mine was very early. I'm sure technically speaking there never really was "a baby" yet - it was more just the idea that had been lost.
But yes, I had that lingering sense of doom for the short time that I knew I was pregnant too.
This time, I'm optimistic. Cautious, but I don't have that feeling. I haven't even had my first prenatal visit yet, so I'm not announcing to anyone. But the doom and gloom isn't there.
It's weird, I guess. Maybe that thing called intuition really does work, huh?
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Murphy's Law
Member
I think it's absolutely possible to have those feelings. While I never experienced them with any of my miscarriages, I did have that feeling the day that I took my ds home from the hospital. I had an eery feeling that he was going to die. I even saw a glimpse of his obituary flash in front of me for a second that day . . . something I immediately dismissed until I saw it again 4 months later. That time it was for real.
I don't know what makes gut feelings happen. It's something that has always intrigued me. They're definitely there though.
I'm sorry you have to be at this forum, Kerry, but hopeful that sharing your experiences will be healing for you.
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~Laurie
*Marshall 08/16/02 - 12/22/02
*Murphy 01/05/05
*Anders 9/11/07 8pounds, 1oz. 20.5"
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Meredith
The Curious One
Once again, Kerry, I'm very sorry for your loss. I do believe that you can have a pre-knowledge of it. I certainly did when I had a MC this past December. When I found out I was pregnant, I kept it under my hat because I was afraid that it would end, and I would have to tell everyone. I told everyone the day I found out when I was PG with DS. I also never really felt that feeling of the pregnancy being "real", KWIM? It was strange. I just didn't really feel "pregnant".
I'm truly sorry for all of your grief, Kerry. I hope that you find peace and healing.
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"I agree - two forms could be really helpful. Abstinence, and also wearing a condom while abstaining just in case."
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joshsmom
I swear.. I'm hardly ever here!
Yup. I did. From the day I got pregnant with my last pregnancy something felt "off". I couldn't articulate it and only ever told dh, but it I felt no real 'excitement' only like something was going to go wrong at any minute.
When I went in for my 8 week appt and the ultrasound showed a heartbeat I was pleasantly surprised. When I realized I was bleeding at 12 weeks, I was disappointed, but felt it was 'expected'. Because of that 'feeling' we told very few people we were expecting and I was "called out" at church a few hours before I started miscarrying because someone thought I was 'getting fat and must be pregnant'. My ob believes the baby died around 9-10 weeks.
I know everyone grieves differently and I can be a bit 'calloused'. I never shed a tear over our loss. I just felt like it wasn't meant to be and felt a very quick peace after the horrific pain and bleeding was over (d/e).
With this pregnancy I feel very different. At the beginning I was 'hoping for the best, but expecting the worse'. I was so happy to hear the heartbeat this week. We're nine weeks and I'm starting to feel much more positive about it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray you'll find peace and healing quickly and good news will bring you back soon.
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Josh, 4/05
Leah, 10/07
Yes, we blog.
For Trish and others on her journey.
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That your pregnancy would end in a miscarriage?
First, I want to say hello. I didn't even realize this forum existed until today. It caught my eye. In case you don't post on the debate forum and haven't been following my saga, I just had a miscarriage yesterday. I found out at 11 weeks that the baby died at 7 weeks, and I miscarried about 3 days later.
The whole time I was pregnant (or before I realized I was no longer pregnant), I had a feeling of impending doom. I didn't quite believe I was pregnant. I continued taking pregnancy tests well into 8 weeks, a whole month after clinical confirmation of a pregnancy. I refused to go to the store to look at baby things, and I refused to make any baby purchases. It felt wrong and naughty to discuss baby names, and I always felt vaguely shameful discussing the baby with my husband. I think I just knew it would end this way, even after my OB saw the heartbeat at 7 weeks. Do you think that's possible? Did anyone else feel that way with a pregnancy that ended in miscarriage?
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Flora
Unregistered
Again Kerry I'm so sorry. Yes I do believe that. I never bought anything for Avonlea. I kept telling people at work not to do a baby shower until she was born. I would tell them you never know what could happen. I was right about not having a baby shower and i'm glad I didn't. I have lots for stuff for her but Prisca brought them up. I wish you peace in this.
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Kristen
Member
Yes, I believe that is very possible.
I am so sorry for your loss, I did see your post on the debate forum and I hope you are doing better.
I have never had a miscarriage but I did lose a baby when I was 22 weeks and the whole time I just had a feeling that something wasn't 'right'. I couldn't explain it, it was just a gut feeling. While I was shocked and devestated when we found out that something was wrong (at 19 weeks) I wasn't too surprised...sure you never think it is going to happen to you and even when you have those 'feelings' you try to push them aside.
We found out something was wrong w/ our baby at nearly 20 weeks and I hadn't made any purchases, plans or anything for that baby. Most women by that point have done something in preperation, but I just couldn't, I guess I knew without really knowing.
Intution is really a powerful thing. You might not want to believe what you fear is true but in my personal experience it has never been wrong.
Again, I wish you the best and I am so sorry for everything you have gone through these past few days.
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Mommy to Hailey Ann (9/6/2004)- BF for 18 months
Mommy to Cole Vincent (4/15/2007)- Boob man
Our baby, Scott Peter, carried for 22 weeks. Went to the angels on 3/12/2006.
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BOOBLES
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I think so too. I m/c in December. It was very early on, but it just didn't feel "right".
Even when talking with dh about it, I would say "if I am pg". It was like I never would accept it in my mind that I was.
All of my pg tests were faint - I took 4 or 6 of them. It wasn't like that with my other 2 dc, so to me, I sensed something was wrong.
When I started spotting, I knew what was happening. DH was hopeful that it was nothing, and insisted that I call the dr. I wasn't able to get in until the next day. In the meantime, I heard many stories and glimmers of hope from others who spotted and went on to have healthy babies. But I knew what was happening, there was no "saving it". All of and their stories were just kind of dragging out the drama for me. I just wanted to know if I could use my Diva cup or did I have to use pads? I wanted to get it over with and move on.
Then when it was OK for me to start TTC again and was unsuccessful that first cycle, I was just so bummed out. I told my friend that I just wanted to "get my baby back". And like I said, mine was very early. I'm sure technically speaking there never really was "a baby" yet - it was more just the idea that had been lost.
But yes, I had that lingering sense of doom for the short time that I knew I was pregnant too.
This time, I'm optimistic. Cautious, but I don't have that feeling. I haven't even had my first prenatal visit yet, so I'm not announcing to anyone. But the doom and gloom isn't there.
It's weird, I guess. Maybe that thing called intuition really does work, huh?
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Murphy's Law
Member
I think it's absolutely possible to have those feelings. While I never experienced them with any of my miscarriages, I did have that feeling the day that I took my ds home from the hospital. I had an eery feeling that he was going to die. I even saw a glimpse of his obituary flash in front of me for a second that day . . . something I immediately dismissed until I saw it again 4 months later. That time it was for real.
I don't know what makes gut feelings happen. It's something that has always intrigued me. They're definitely there though.
I'm sorry you have to be at this forum, Kerry, but hopeful that sharing your experiences will be healing for you.
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~Laurie
*Marshall 08/16/02 - 12/22/02
*Murphy 01/05/05
*Anders 9/11/07 8pounds, 1oz. 20.5"
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Meredith
The Curious One
Once again, Kerry, I'm very sorry for your loss. I do believe that you can have a pre-knowledge of it. I certainly did when I had a MC this past December. When I found out I was pregnant, I kept it under my hat because I was afraid that it would end, and I would have to tell everyone. I told everyone the day I found out when I was PG with DS. I also never really felt that feeling of the pregnancy being "real", KWIM? It was strange. I just didn't really feel "pregnant".
I'm truly sorry for all of your grief, Kerry. I hope that you find peace and healing.
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I have verifiable fingers and toes!
"I agree - two forms could be really helpful. Abstinence, and also wearing a condom while abstaining just in case."
~Roxxi, on birth control
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joshsmom
I swear.. I'm hardly ever here!
Yup. I did. From the day I got pregnant with my last pregnancy something felt "off". I couldn't articulate it and only ever told dh, but it I felt no real 'excitement' only like something was going to go wrong at any minute.
When I went in for my 8 week appt and the ultrasound showed a heartbeat I was pleasantly surprised. When I realized I was bleeding at 12 weeks, I was disappointed, but felt it was 'expected'. Because of that 'feeling' we told very few people we were expecting and I was "called out" at church a few hours before I started miscarrying because someone thought I was 'getting fat and must be pregnant'. My ob believes the baby died around 9-10 weeks.
I know everyone grieves differently and I can be a bit 'calloused'. I never shed a tear over our loss. I just felt like it wasn't meant to be and felt a very quick peace after the horrific pain and bleeding was over (d/e).
With this pregnancy I feel very different. At the beginning I was 'hoping for the best, but expecting the worse'. I was so happy to hear the heartbeat this week. We're nine weeks and I'm starting to feel much more positive about it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray you'll find peace and healing quickly and good news will bring you back soon.
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Josh, 4/05
Leah, 10/07
Yes, we blog.
For Trish and others on her journey.
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