Is it normal to worry about the baby?

[CPAMOM]

Ok...I am 4 1/2 weeks along and I am worried about all sort of things. I am already having the strangest dreams about things. Etopic, miscarriage, brain damage, etc....Does everyone else have these thoughts or am I just stressing too much. I am 36 and PG with DC #2. I guess maybe the "advanced maternal age" thing is getting to me. Help!

[EzrasMom]

I totally worried more with #2 than with #1. Once I had one healthy child I started wondering if I could possible be lucky/blessed enough to have two healthy children in a row. I would think about all the bad stories I had heard. The miscarriages, bad deliveries, unhealthy kids...

It took till about 12 weeks for me to relax and be able to enjoy it. I hope you can enjoy your pregnancy. It's much easier said than done, but worrying won't change whatever is in store for you, it will just make you miserable in the meantime.

Good luck & congrats!!

[gingerbread_ca]

I worried a bit with each of mine. It is definately normal, especially once they tag you with that Advanced Maternal Age. They did that to me and I had it in my mind that they were not going to scare me out of my wits. They proposed all this testing and I just refused anything that was going into my uterus. I only agreed to blood tests. I figured that if something were wrong with my kids I would just deal with it. Really, what was I going to do? I decided to enjoy my pg and trust God. I ended up with five healthy babies. Even if they hadn't been I couldn't love them any less!

Try not to be too stressed out, this is a blessed time in your life!:D

[Earthmama]

Very normal to worry.

Are you getting enough sleep? I find I worry more when I'm sleep deprived.

[Mary_Mary]

Totally normal. Even more so if you've got any 'factors' working against you.

With my last pregnancy I wouldn't even let anyone tell me my due date until I was out of the first trimester (and I refused to do the math.) As it was someone just let it slip without warning one day before I could stop them.

Not only did I have 'advanced maternal age' going against me but a history of miscarriage as well.

I ended up being seen at the doctors office for unscheduled check-ups several times because I just HAD to hear the heartbeat and could not wait any longer without losing my mind.

I ended up having the quad screen and a level 3 ultrasound. I had contemplated an amnio just because they DO tend to harp on the age thing and I was ready for a slice of peace of mind. When the quad screen and ultrasound showed that everything was looking good we opted not to do the amnio...I had enough peace of mind at that point.

I also kept reminding myself that no amount of prenatal testing in the world can guarantee anything. Any one of us could end up with a special needs kid at any time due to accident or serious illness.

Good luck...TRY not to worry too much. Do what you need to have peace of mind...whether that is scheduling appointments more closely than recommended or having testing done.

[HotMama25]

I worry a little more with this pregnancy then my first as well. A lot of it has to do with a co-worker of mine just losing her first baby at 17 weeks. So of course right after all of this happened I found out I was pg with #2. I don't know how to go about telling everyone at the office since everyone is still on that hum type of mood. I am sure she will be very happy for me, I just worry too much about her feelings. I am also worried about this one because right now I have a really bad infection, went to the dr yesterday and my white count is really high. I wasn't sick with my first child so this is new to me and scares me a little bit. They gave me some medicine which is safe to take, it just worries me you know.