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JustMom
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#1403748 - 07/17/07 03:14 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I am sitting here looking at the beautiful baby girl God gave us last week. I know I should be thankful, but I can't look at her without thinking of her twin that we lost in my first trimester. I know I should just be thankful that we did not lose them both, but it is just hard. Will I always look at her and think that something is missing?
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DS1 - Jon 8/1997 BF for 9 months
DS2 - Joel 6/1999 BF for 6 months
DS3 - Jeremy 1/2001 BF for 6 months
DS4 - Jason 9/2002 BF for 12 months
DD1 - Charity 12/2005 BF/FF 9 months
DD2 - Elizabeth 7/2007 BF & still loving it
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#1404450 - 07/17/07 11:19 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I'm sorry your having such a hard time. I hope you find peace with it one day. Maybe you could plant a tree to remember her twin by and watch it grow ?
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~Staci~ Kendric 7/98 Jaden 1/02 Delaney 11/04 Tyson 11/06
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Kristen
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#1406615 - 07/17/07 07:43 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I am sorry for the pain you are feeling right now.
I have never been pregnant with twins and lost one, but I can kind of relate.
I lost a baby boy when I was 5 months pregnant. After him we got pregnant again, with another little boy. I am having a hard time dealing with that pain, it makes me think of my other little boy who should be here with me. Cole is 3 months old now and it is still difficult for me.
I hope your healing goes quickly, if you would like to talk I would love to listen.
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Mommy to Hailey Ann (9/6/2004)- BF for 18 months
Mommy to Cole Vincent (4/15/2007)- Boob man
Our baby, Scott Peter, carried for 22 weeks. Went to the angels on 3/12/2006.
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Re: I should be thankful, but .... [Re: Kristen]
#1407373 - 07/17/07 10:12 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
My mom lost my twin but I did not find out until I was about 10 bc I always felt like someone was missing when I was growing up and the family would all be together and I never told my mom until I was 10 and she cried when she told me that she always felt that way too and my dad did not want me to know that i was a twin. She lost my twin when she was about 20wks pg and we were in a car accident. I am sorry for the pain you are feeling and its good to talk about it openly bc when my mom told me she cried very hard and I could tell she had so much hurt that she kept inside for all those yrs.
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DD 01-24-97 BF/FF
DD 01-02-2007 EBF
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#1408151 - 07/18/07 12:43 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
Your story sounds like mine with Freja. I lost Freja's twin at 5-6 weeks. For the first two years it was really hard on me. I kept looking at her and thinking how there should be two of her. But it does get easier. You will ALWAYS remember your angel baby and I personally know when freja is older I'll tell her she has an angel twin
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Darcy
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#1411057 - 07/18/07 04:06 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
Parker my oldest daugher lost a twin, I was 7 weeks, I had a few miscarrages before so I was so happy I had one even, but now I look at her and I know someone is missing, I didnt even start to mourn my loss until after Parker was born. I still think of the baby.
Parker uses her left hand (which they say means that you had a twin) So everytime she eats or colors, I think of her twin.
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DD ~ Parker ~ 2/17/06 ~ BF 13 mo
DD2 Due November 12th
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JustMom
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#1413203 - 07/19/07 03:11 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
My kids all call the baby we lost "Angel Baby". My four year old asked me the day our daughter was born, "Mom this is our baby, Elizabeth, but our Angel Baby is in Heaven, Right!" He has called her that since we first told him about her going to Heaven. I don't know why, because we did not tell him that she was an Angel. It just kind of stuck after that and now all of the kids refer to her as Angel.
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Loc: Madagascar I should be thankful, but ....
#1403748 - 07/17/07 03:14 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I am sitting here looking at the beautiful baby girl God gave us last week. I know I should be thankful, but I can't look at her without thinking of her twin that we lost in my first trimester. I know I should just be thankful that we did not lose them both, but it is just hard. Will I always look at her and think that something is missing?
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DS1 - Jon 8/1997 BF for 9 months
DS2 - Joel 6/1999 BF for 6 months
DS3 - Jeremy 1/2001 BF for 6 months
DS4 - Jason 9/2002 BF for 12 months
DD1 - Charity 12/2005 BF/FF 9 months
DD2 - Elizabeth 7/2007 BF & still loving it
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my4kidz
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#1404450 - 07/17/07 11:19 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I'm sorry your having such a hard time. I hope you find peace with it one day. Maybe you could plant a tree to remember her twin by and watch it grow ?
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~Staci~ Kendric 7/98 Jaden 1/02 Delaney 11/04 Tyson 11/06
Everyone has a photographic memory, some just don't have film!
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Kristen
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#1406615 - 07/17/07 07:43 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I am sorry for the pain you are feeling right now.
I have never been pregnant with twins and lost one, but I can kind of relate.
I lost a baby boy when I was 5 months pregnant. After him we got pregnant again, with another little boy. I am having a hard time dealing with that pain, it makes me think of my other little boy who should be here with me. Cole is 3 months old now and it is still difficult for me.
I hope your healing goes quickly, if you would like to talk I would love to listen.
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Mommy to Hailey Ann (9/6/2004)- BF for 18 months
Mommy to Cole Vincent (4/15/2007)- Boob man
Our baby, Scott Peter, carried for 22 weeks. Went to the angels on 3/12/2006.
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Re: I should be thankful, but .... [Re: Kristen]
#1407373 - 07/17/07 10:12 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
My mom lost my twin but I did not find out until I was about 10 bc I always felt like someone was missing when I was growing up and the family would all be together and I never told my mom until I was 10 and she cried when she told me that she always felt that way too and my dad did not want me to know that i was a twin. She lost my twin when she was about 20wks pg and we were in a car accident. I am sorry for the pain you are feeling and its good to talk about it openly bc when my mom told me she cried very hard and I could tell she had so much hurt that she kept inside for all those yrs.
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DD 10-28-93 FF
DD 01-24-97 BF/FF
DD 01-02-2007 EBF
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twitchyboobs
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#1408151 - 07/18/07 12:43 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
Your story sounds like mine with Freja. I lost Freja's twin at 5-6 weeks. For the first two years it was really hard on me. I kept looking at her and thinking how there should be two of her. But it does get easier. You will ALWAYS remember your angel baby and I personally know when freja is older I'll tell her she has an angel twin
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Melissa- mom to Freja 1/6/04, Raeden 1/15/06, and >i< Calypso 6/14/07-7/7/07 Calypso's Site, My Blog
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Darcy
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#1411057 - 07/18/07 04:06 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
Parker my oldest daugher lost a twin, I was 7 weeks, I had a few miscarrages before so I was so happy I had one even, but now I look at her and I know someone is missing, I didnt even start to mourn my loss until after Parker was born. I still think of the baby.
Parker uses her left hand (which they say means that you had a twin) So everytime she eats or colors, I think of her twin.
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DD ~ Parker ~ 2/17/06 ~ BF 13 mo
DD2 Due November 12th
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JustMom
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Loc: Madagascar Re: I should be thankful, but .... [Re: twitchyboobs]
#1413203 - 07/19/07 03:11 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
My kids all call the baby we lost "Angel Baby". My four year old asked me the day our daughter was born, "Mom this is our baby, Elizabeth, but our Angel Baby is in Heaven, Right!" He has called her that since we first told him about her going to Heaven. I don't know why, because we did not tell him that she was an Angel. It just kind of stuck after that and now all of the kids refer to her as Angel.