Healing through Writing

[Coolbeth]

Reading through this forum has reminded me of the feelings I experienced (and still experience) during my miscarriage. I know every experience and every woman is different, but writing really helped me to heal.

During my subsequent pregnancy (which was healthy-- I'm a happy mom now!) I was still struggling. I ended up writing a letter to myself from the perspective of my lost child, who we lovingly called "the wee one".

I don't want to post the poem here-- it may be too long. But, if you would like to read it, I've posted it on my blog.

http://www.booknboob.com/blog/

Maybe it could help someone else gain perspective. After I wrote the poem, it was like a weight was lifted from me. I could find both pain and joy in the experience.

I would love to hear if anyone else has had similar experiences with writing and loss.

[gamrgrl]

I also wrote a poem when we lost my son Dante. It was short, and for the little program they gave out at the funeral. Journaling about my feelings also helped me get through some of the rough times. I think writing, in any form is a wonderful way to help one work through and get out their feelings. It can really be a safe haven. I have heard of many people, in all kinds of loss, that write a letter to the deceased and find that very helpful.
Here is the poem I wrote...

We had a special angel,
who blessed us for a time.
The months we shared were far too brief,
they numbered only nine.
Now he's gone to Jesus' arms
and looks down from above.
All he knew, his brief, sweet life
was our unending love.

[RoseJan123]

My dad (64) has been fighting laryngeal cancer since 6 yrs. Well, not exactly. For 5 years he kept ignoring the signs and when he couldn't anymore he was forced for surgery and treatment. Since 8 months docs have been trying to save his larynx. But eventually radiation did not work and they removed his larynx. Dad started eating a soft diet but he needs a lot of coaxing and fighting. That is all ok.

But what I am worried is his insecurity and lack of self confidence. Since months he has been away from work and his social life and now he feels that he may not go back to work or even be able to drive. Docs are positive, he is negative! However much we try to convince him he is not convinced. He always wants everyone around him and any slight change in his routine makes him fussy. Its scary sometimes when he tries to tightly grip your hand at night and wouldn't sleep.

[Nipple_nectar]

I am sending prayers of peace and strength to you {{{hugs}}} It is very difficult to lose a parent.:(