Looking ahead- ttc plan

[kohlby]

Yep, I'm looking ahead, way ahead. I need to. The d&c is now scheduled for monday. For the first time after a miscarriage, I am going to take time from ttc off until the first period. I figure I'll get my first period around the end of April and start ttc then. So, just a month (or so) away! I actually currently still have hyperemesis but that should go away after the d&c. I was too sick to celebrate DD's b-day which was last sat. DS's b-day is May 16. So, the timing will work out great - by the time I get my period, I won't be able to be anymore than 4 weeks pg for DS's b-day! (If for some reason my body jumps back to normal too fast, then I'll wait an extra month to ttc. It really sucked being too sick to celebrate. Being sick for my b-day would suck too, but not as much as one of the kids).

So, I'll be back soon. A spring '09 baby sounds lovely!

[smoochy12]

i hope you are feeling better soon. i wish you success when you try again. :)
hugs
smooch

[smoochy12]

and yes, spring babies rock :) my dd was born in april and i'm hoping to have a repeat performance for next year around the same time ;)

was a great time to be pregnant and have a babe.
good luck :)
smooch

[OJosMom]

I'm sorry that you are going through this again, but I'm proud of you that you sound upbeat! Wishing you the best on Monday. :hug:

[madelsmama]

Kolby, I'm so very sorry you've had such a rough road. You'll be in my thoughts tomorrow.

[AveryO]

HUGS Kohlby. I'll be thinking of you on Monday.

My babes are all spring babies. It's a nice of time of year!

[rachelandtyke]

:hug: I'm sorry you're going through this, too. :(

[busy_i_am2007]

I'm so sorry.

[kohlby]

Not exactly upbeat, but the alternative to looking forward is looking back. My kids are March and May babies. I DO think I have an excellent chance of getting pg in the next 6 months, given my history. I'm not sure what I think my chances of staying pg are though. That's too hard to think about. I really don't think there's anything else the dr can do for me to decrease my mc risks. But I'm sure my case will be brought up to the panel again so at least I get a lot of specialists brains working together.

[OJosMom]

I'm sorry, I hope my use of the word "upbeat" didn't imply that I was in any way minimizing your loss. I just felt that the positive attitude you expressed was wonderful considering all you are going through. I've been there, I know. I'm thinking about you today and wish you an easy procedure. Please update when you are up to it.

[caileighs_mom]

kohlby:

I didn't know you m/c'd - and am sorry to read this. I hope you are doing ok, and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Sheila

[Mary_Mary]

I think it makes total sense. Looking forward is what keeps us all going. I know that the times I was most depressed during my TTC journey was when I felt that I had no options. The worst was a couple of months when we were working on how to finance our next steps and as a result couldn't DO anything.

I don't want this to sound cliche or anything, but at least you DO have the expectation that GETTING pregnant won't be much problem. The fear of miscarriage will always be there, but GETTING pregnant is the first, very vital, step to having another baby.

I was always amazed at how hopeful I could be even when my period started. Even after months and months of NOT getting pregnant, when a person would reasonably expect to be totally depressed at yet another unsuccessful cycle I was always glad to discover that I could be hopeful that THIS would be the month good things would happen.

I'm wishing you tons and tons of luck in all this. I know how crushing the disappointment is...but also how much looking forward and making plans can help.