nursing while ttc dilemma

[kohlby]

What would you do in my situation?

As most of you know, I had my 5th miscarriage a month ago. I just had my d&c follow-up appt with my OB today. (I see the RE in a couple weeks to discuss a plan for next time - I'm going to request metformin due to my insulin resistance issues). The OB mentioned that maybe nursing was a contributor. That it was hard to know for certain but that I may want to try weaning to increase my chances of the next one sticking. This is the same OB who had no problems with me nursing while pg at all before - even though I miscarried while nursing for loss #3 and #4 too. (My daughter was born in between loss #3 and #4 and I did nurse while pg with her). The RE had mentioned last time that nursing while pg is a gray area for someone with recurrent losses like mine.

My DD has always been super healthy and turned 2 in March. I have cut her down, but she still nurses 4 times in 24 hours. (DS only nurses a little, not enough to be an issue). Would you consider weaning her in my position? I'm not going to not ttc- I'm almost 35 and DH has already hit 40. My gut is telling me not to wean her but I want to increase my chances of staying pg.

[rachelandtyke]

I'm kind of in the same boat as you (have had 4 m/c, 2 while nursing), although Allie is a little older. I actually did not tell this last OB that I am nursing because I don't want her to automatically blame it on that. But considering I have a hormonal imbalance going on besides the blood clotting issues, I can't help but wonder if nursing is a factor also. Allie is 33 months and nurses just 3x a day for maybe a total of 1 hour. I really do not want to wean in order to ttc. What if I wean and keep m/c anyway? Or what if I wean and don't even get pg again for a year or more? I would deeply regret the decision to wean at that point. Especially since she shows no signs of readiness for it. We plan to continue ttc without weaning . . .

[cream_city]

It seems like a really difficult choice.

I nursed my son for three years, and I am glad I waited until he was ready to wean on his own.

I think you should go with your gut right now.

Things may be different in even a few months -- your dd may decide to nurse less on her own. You could also set a date when you'll reconsider, like in 6 months or so...

Good luck with your decision!