is this alot?

[TayNRobbiesMom]

last nite ds was w/ a sitter from 3pm-930 pm. He nursed before he went (pretty well i thought)

but sitter says he had 2 3oz bottles of EBM

and 2 4oz bottles of formula (NEEDLESS TO SAY I PUMPED XTRA ALL WEEK,SENDING 5 BAGS OF EMB and form for emergency only!!)

aside from being PISSED about using the formula and "saving" the bm isn't this alot for a 3.5 mo weighing 13lbs?

[gobucks1013]

Lemme see if I understand you correctly: Nursed at 3-ish then had a total of 6 oz EBM and 8 oz of formula in 6.5 hours? Heck yeah that's a lot. Does your DS cluster feed in the evenings? When I was EPing, my DS would sometimes take as much as 7oz EBM in a 3hr period in the evenings. Does your sitter know how to bottle-feed a BF baby? Maybe she needs a review...

http://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/bottle-feeding.html

[TayNRobbiesMom]

ok just wanted to make sure I wasnt overreacting. he cluster feeds some but i thought it was most comfort nursing as he's still waking (MOST nights) after no longer than 3-4hrs.

also IYO, could this in some way account for fussiness today? thanks!

[gobucks1013]

ok just wanted to make sure I wasnt overreacting. he cluster feeds some but i thought it was most comfort nursing as he's still waking (MOST nights) after no longer than 3-4hrs.

also IYO, could this in some way account for fussiness today? thanks!

IDK, could be that the formula has upset his system a little I suppose. I'd be pissed, too by the way, if the sitter didn't use up all the EBM I sent before resorting to formula.

I hope your DS feels better soon! :)

[TayNRobbiesMom]

umm yea i was really mad esp when i SAH so i have to pump most times while feeding and she said at first she gave me 2 frozen bags back...

this morning i found the last one still in the diaper bag! waste! so i called and was like "did he only have 2 bottles last night?"

this is how i figured it out. does no one understand how hard i've worked to get where i am in terms of bfing!?!? (ladies here excluded)

[RedheadbyChoice]

I think I'd be a tad pickier now about sitters.

[TayNRobbiesMom]

well funny story behind that one is...My MIL was suposed to watch the kids til she went on a wrath this week b/c i wanna delay solids (hes 3.5 MO!).

So, we made arrangements to get our good friends to watch them...Honestly this is going to sound wrong but i need to find another bfing mom...b/c then she will appriciate what I go through...where as my ILs and friends now dont they thought they were doing me a "Favor" by "saving" the bm....

[RedheadbyChoice]

Here's an idea........what about not even having the formula available for whomever is babysitting? I know many great sitters who would NOT give formula....and none of them are or were breastfeeding mothers.

[pumpkinhead7]

That isa ridiculous amount of milk (regardless of whether it was formula or BM) for a baby of that age and size. How often does he usually nurse?

To give her the benefit of the doubt maybe he hit a growth spurt, but it sounds like he might have been a little fussy being separated from you and every time he squawked, she put a bottle in his mouth.

[pumpkinhead7]

Yeah, I wouldn't leave formula at all.

[TayNRobbiesMom]

ok red, maybe you took my post wrong. I wasn't trying to be offensive to those who haven't Bfed (remember my dd was FF). I worry that im not leaving enough bm all the time and we don't have cell phones...
I'm thinking we'll just have to put our "date nites" on hold until DS is a yr and im a lil less picky as to what hes eating. It just sucks b/c DH works ALOT and we seldom even really get a chance to talk til bed time even on his off days. Thanks for all the input....Maybe i need to PAY a sitter (LOL)...

[RedheadbyChoice]

I wasn't knocking you, sugar, and I know you weren't knocking those that haven't nursed; I'm just saying that one doesn't need to nurse to know that breastmilk is precious. :) And, one doesn't also need to nurse to know NOT to overfeed a baby.

Take a look at the milk calculators, for how much to leave babe. If in doubt, what about coming home just a tad early?

[dodoe80]

I know how you feel my sister feed my son 15 oz of ebm/formula in a 5 1/2 hour period. I have since come to the conclusion that My son will eat untill he throughs up. (I've seen this happen before.) My sister was just feeding him until he stopped and he was also very cranky that night so she just keept feeding him.

That is one thing I like about my sitter I have when I am working, she will only feed DS 4 oz at a time and will wait until he is obviously hungry to feed him. Only once in four weeks has she fed him an extra bottle.

[RedheadbyChoice]

Holy snot! 15 ounces in 5.5 hours? damn! I'd have been hella pissed about that!

[dodoe80]

Yah I wasn't to happy, but didn't say anything to her. I later did some research online to see if we were feeding him enough ourselves and found out that we are on the high side of "average" for a bf baby.

[Prettyskittle82]

I think you left plenty of milk. I agree that you may need to talk to her about how to feed your baby. Maybe she is coaxing the rest of the bottle. And is not checking to see if the baby is finished. With a bottle, it takes longer for the baby to realize that he's not hungry anymore. Maybe you need to give a schedule on when to feed the baby... and make sure the sitter knows what to check/try first before giving a bottle.