I'm not wanting to find out...

[busy_i_am2007]

the sex of the baby this time. I want it to be a surprise in the delivery room, but my husband says he wants to know ahead of time.

We didn't know what we were having with our first baby, and with our 3rd baby we didn't know because she had her legs crossed the whole time. We knew what all our other kids were going to be though. It was nice knowing ahead of time what we were having, so we called the baby by name and we could buy the correct clothing.

But since this is going to be our last baby, I want the whole surprise thing in the delivery room. I want to be able to hear the doctor say, "It's a boy/girl"!

I told my husband we can bring a boy and girl outfit and have the names ready. But he wants to find out before the baby is here.

I am very stubborn at times so I bet I'll win this debate of finding out sooner or waiting until birth...lol!!


What would you do?

[J-A-N-E]

Same thing as you. If I was having one more - I would want to wait for the "surprise"!!


Could I wait is the question :)

[samiam]

I waited on all of mine so I say go for the surprise. This is one of those times in life that a surprise can be really good, KWIM? Crap, with my first dd I went into labor 3 weeks and a day early. Not only did we not know the sex, my baby shower was the following week! We didn't have clothes (of either sex mind you), a car seat, or anything else. I about called my mom crying (c-section) asking her if she knew if anyone was planning on getting the car seat as we needed it NOW to get the baby home:) My SIL and MIL came over and brought a few outfits, onsies, pads (thankfully), and my MIL bought us a bassinet. All of this was put together and neatly arranged before I came home.

You could always let him find out but keep it a surprise for you. My only problem with that is if he slipped up he would ruin it for you.

My dh wanted to know the first time around (I think they knew with my dsd) but realized how much I didn't and caved relatively quickly.

[busy_i_am2007]

I'm afraid if he would find out, he would definately let it slip since he loves to talk to my belly. Right now he's been talking to my belly, asking how his baby boy is doing...lol!

I do have t-shirts, and some sleepers left from my 2yr old son. And some of his baby outfits, so if it's a boy, we're pretty much covered with the clothing. I also have the infant seat, baby bassenet, baby swing, changing table, baby bed, baby carriers, and more stuff, I never got rid of anything after my 2yr old was born. Good thing...lol!

A few of my older kids are wanting to wait and not find out what the baby will be. So I guess me and the kids will get our way...lol!

[Sashahomeschoolmama]

I prefer to know the sex, but obviously there's no right or wrong answer.

[babymakes4]

Well I would wait if that is what you want. I on the other hand can not wait to find out!!!! We didn't know with our boys, and it was a nice surprise, but I have to admit, even though this sounds kinda bad, I was a little disapointed that owen was a boy. We wanted a girl so badly. Of course I love him and wouldn't have him any other way, but there was that slight hint of disapointment. I think if we find out the sex of this baby we will be more prepared and can get past any "qualms" that we may have. This is our last baby.

[pawprint]

The first time I HAD to know. Oddly enough, at that time I would have been crushed if he'd been a girl. It worked out fine and was a huge relief for me.

With ds2 I didn't care and would have liked to be surprised but DH really wanted to know and since I made all the decisions regarding the pregnancy and birth i let him have that one.

[FrznPolarAngel]

I am too impatient...would want to know the second we could. **laughs** Had a tough time with Brian for a couple of sonograms but finally, he gave up and spread his legs for us.

[RedheadbyChoice]

Easy, we wouldn't know the gender. :) We've never known for any of our 4, and DH is just as adamant as I am, about not wanting to know. We're certainly the oddballs, though, at my doctor's office, in not wanting to know.

[EvilAmy]

Normally we wouldn't have peeked. But with Xander being our "last" and me giving away everything girly and then being in such an emotionally distraught place (we were planning some life changes and being pregnant sort of altered them a bit). DH thought that agreeing with me in peeking would be one less thing on my mind I would be stressed about. As usual my gut feeling was right and I predicted before we officially knew (won 10 bucks funny money against DH). But this really being the last one it was nice to know and hasn't really removed anything from the experience. I've had 4 non-peekys and 1 peeky.


I agree with Sasha that there is no right or wrong answer.

[SueDid]

Easy, we wouldn't know the gender. :) We've never known for any of our 4, and DH is just as adamant as I am, about not wanting to know. We're certainly the oddballs, though, at my doctor's office, in not wanting to know.

This is us, too. We didn't know with any of our 6 and I wouldn't change a thing. We got a lot of grief for not finding out, but we are so glad that we did it that way.

We always brought a boy outfit and a girl outfit for bringing baby home.

[DiscoPanda]

I was in your situation when I was pregnant with #2. I wanted a surprise; DH didn't.

After my ultrasound, I left the room and the technician told him the sex. He kept it from me the whole time. He bought all the appropriate gender-specific clothes, decorated the nursery accordingly - all without my help.

It was the best of both worlds, IMO. I got my surprise, and also had all my "girlie" stuff ready to go, courtesy of DH. :)

[bocarioja]

There are so many surprises in life that are truly wonderful, no matter what the outcome.

[Joyto5]

OP, I'm with you on this one. This is our last as well. We didn't know our first or second and LOVED the surprise! Didn't ever have an U/S with them. Having U/S with this one will make it a little harder to resist.

[Beautifuldisaster2003]

we wanted to know and ds didnt want to show us until 32 weeks.

[jaelwoman]

I only knew on one of mine - my 3rd - and I can't say that I was disappointed, but I loved not knowing more.

If you really, really can't "get" your way on this, is there anyway that your DH can just continue to talk to you belly like baby boy, whether or not it is a boy??

I would just tell my DH that it was really important to me that we not know - or your could warn your tech ahead of time and she could lie for you - say sorry, I just can't tell...ok, not really, but I'd be tempted! LOL