We're weaning *bloggish* I think

[Prisca]

I decided recently to start pushing DD2 towards weaning, for a few reasons. She's 3.5. DD1 was 4.5 when she weaned (that was last summer) and I encouraged her, but ultimately it was her choice.

However, with DD2 I'm starting earlier, and she has not really wanted to wean. So I've been telling her for the last couple of days that I'm out of milk. She's taking it really well, and not getting upset the way she did, when I would just refuse to nurse her whenever she wants. The first couple of days, I would let her nurse at bed time and in the morning, but then I'd say I didn't have enough milk for during the day, and she's been ok with that.

Now she hasn't nursed at all since Thursday. I'm feeling terribly guilty about the whole thing. She seems ok, and I'm ok. My breasts aren't even tender. I don't think I've been producing much milk lately. She occasionally asks to nurse, and when I tell her I don't have any milk, she will ask to feel or see my breasts, and then she'll agree I'm out of milk, and let it go. But I still feel bad she isn't weaning on her own.

I've been nursing for 5.5 years and am ready to be done. I think. But I keep having doubts about whether I'm doing the right thing. Especially since DD1 was a year older when I started pushing her to wean.

I don't think I really need any advice. Just comfort and reassurance, maybe.

[kohlby]

Good luck!
Every child is different - remember that fair doesn't always mean equal. So, don't worry about having to give your kids the same amount of breastmilk. There are/will be a lot of things they get that aren't equal but still are fair!

[catkrazy99]

I totally understand! Good luck!

[Wolverine]

Good luck! I think that you are doing the right thing if you are feeling done.

It may not be fair or equal. But, if you feel done, it's the right thing.

[JudyJudyJudy]

If you're both okay, it sounds like you've done the right thing. Hang in there. :hug:

[Prisca]

Thanks all. I feel like we are getting close to the point of no return, if we havn't already passed it, and I'm feeling a little nervous and sad. I think I'm doing the right thing for us. But knowing that this maye be the end makes me feel a little like crying at the same time.