Vent

[Hollywith2Akidz]

I am sorry but I need to vent a little. Lately Aiden has gotten so clingy and crawls to my feet and pulls himself up on me whenever we are at home. IT DRIVES ME CRAZY when the kids pull at my clothes and he is always pulling my shirt down if I am holding him. I have been getting grouchy with them lately because DH just sits back and watches because DS will scream if DH tries to pick him up. Last night I was trying to tuck Alexandra and DH was trying to read Aiden a book but he kept crying and wiggling till finaly DH put him down, so Aiden came to Alexandra's bedroom door and sat there and screamed till I came out.

When I was trying to talk to DH about it he said we needed to start weaning because that is why ds is so clingy, when we are home from work all he wants is the boob and its not fare to him if I get grouchy for him pulling at my clothes. I was so mad at that I didn't know what to say other then give him a dirty look and tell him "no we don't need that" if he is not going to bed or its not on the weekend where he would have a bottle then we can give him a cup or see if he is wanting a snack.



GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR to make matters worse his grandma is coming up this weekend to bring the damn swing set that she bought for the kids, that I don't want and I am jsut waiting for them to say something about me still nursing even though Aiden just turned 1.

Thanks for letting me vent

[Jacksmommy]

I'm sorry you're stressed. It's really normal for a 1 year old to want to nurse all the time. Mine nursed constantly at that age. They're at a very mommy attached age and teething at the same time. Nursing is comforting.
Can your dh be the one to tuck your dd in at night when the baby is being so needy?

[Stephanie]

:hug:, mama! It is hard when babies get demanding, and I completely understand getting grouchy with them.

Weaning most likely will not solve the problem of clinginess. Daddy is just going to have to work very hard to figure out how he can help Aiden. Dh has to do this with dd. She is very attached to mommy, but dh works with her and they have come a long way. Sometimes she cries, but daddy has learned what he can do to help her.

I hope your visit with grandma isn't too stressful. As hard as it is, try to ignore the comments. You know what is best for you and your baby.

[RedheadbyChoice]

:hug:

I'm sorry, babe, you sound really overwhelmed.

No, I don't think weaning would make him less clingy, I think it would most likely have the opposite effect on him. Any way that YOU can get some Momma time to recharge?

[Hollywith2Akidz]

I always feel bad about saying that I need some "me" time since I am at work all day but its hard for me to take the time. Dh helps with DD our routine is I tuck first and read her a story and then he goes in there and finishes tucking. I also think weaning would be very bad right now and more stressful because ds would just want it more. I hope this weekend is a recharging weekend for us after his grandma goes home.
Thanks for your kind words

[udderluv]

Wow!!! I've so been in your shoes! I agree that weaning is not the best answer as it will make him more clingy at this stage. My DD did the same thing about that age. What about taking a timeout for you between work and home? Don't feel guilty. You need to recharge to be at your best! There is no way around it.

Hang in there!