OT - UGH parents

[ima062002]

My parents got here yesterday and I am stressing out about it already. My mom was raising her eyebrows about dd2 "still" nursing. She is 19 mo. That made me so uncomfortable that I am hiding that ds, who just turned 4, is *still* :) nursing. I hate myself for that.

Also, her parenting advice, well, is just terrible. She keeps interfering and shushes my kids etc. My son was having a temper tantrum on the subway and I held his hands when he tried to hit me. He then said that if I didn't let go of his hands he'd bite me. I was just about to say, No you won't because I won't let you, when mom said "just bite him back". HUH? She added, that's what you said to do with the puppy (some 15 years ago and I am not even sure that's what I would have said). Besides, my son is not a dog, I am not trying to train him, I am trying to teach him become an able adult! It would have been one thing for her to say this in our native language (which ds doesn't speak) but no, she had to say it in English. I just wish she'd keep her opinions to herself but moreso I wish I could just calmly respond to her "thx I have this under control" or "this approach wouldn't work for us", instead I exclaimed "are you insane"? lol.

Vent over, thx for listening. I am sure there will be more to come LOL.

[Darcy_]

ohhhh I am so sorry!! (((hugs))) Hang in there!

Were always here when you need to vent!

[TayNRobbiesMom]

are you my long lost SIL??? LMAO.

sorry you are going through this.

We were at mils tonight and DS got fussy. She asked DH did you bring him any food?

"yea, in Ellie's boobs"

"well i dont wanna see that !" (FWIW i've never nursed w/o a cover infront of her and NOW she suddenly won't accept THAT! My baby is barely 5 months!

[Mocosita]

Wow! Hang in there and come and vent.

Funny mini-story: We were visiting some friends today (from noon till about 7 pm) and ds nursed a couple of times throughout the visit. Somewhere around the fifth time he was nursing, my (male)friend asked "isn't he on some kind of schedule?, he's been nursing a lot!" to which I said "yes, but he also loves to snack! :)"

[fell4myfallbaby]

ahh parents! when they should be proud of you for nursing and doing whats best for your child.....they complain.

[oomaumau04]

ugh! I'm on my way to visit family this week and can't wait for moments like these. *rolls eyes* Hang in there....fortunately, we don't have to live with these people. :)

[whitnessforhim]

ahh the wonderful world of dealing with our parents...that can be so trying at times!!
:hug:
We'll be here for any future vents :)

[Jacksmommy]

See, now I think, "Are you insane?!", was the perfect response, and I'm glad you said it in the language your son understands.

[jodibug]

Yeah.... parents can be a pain. I was at my mom and stepdad's house this weekend for a BBQ. Everyone was talking about the "baby borrowers" and I said "no one could borrow my baby! for one thing I have to be able to feed her!" (Laci is 14 weeks old, just over 3 months)

and my stepdad said "well these babies are 5-6 months old, so it's ok". I said "well I'll still be bf'ing Laci then!" and he said "not at my house you won't"

So I told DH that I hope he had a good time, because we won't be visiting them much anymore.

The first time I fed Laci at their house I warned everyone first that I was going to feed her. Then I unhooked my bra and my stepdad and brother in law both grimaced and gave me dirty looks. I said "where did you think her milk was going to come from?" and my brother in law said "well a bottle would have been a good choice". I just told them.... not for my baby, she prefers boobs!

They can be like that all they want. When my mom and sister start harping on me about not getting to see the baby.... I'll just tell them that the baby still has to eat! I can't hang out where I am not welcome to feed her!

[Jacksmommy]

Your stepdad sounds like a jerk. Sorry.

[kbearmytai]

Ima - hang in there and vent anytime, It will be over soon. :hug:

Jodibug - I agree with jacksmommy, sorry. It's awful when people ASSume that all babies eat from a bottle. In their minds it's beautiful when it's animals nursing, but down right disturbing when human mommies feed their young ones the same way.

[still_me]

See, now I think, "Are you insane?!", was the perfect response, and I'm glad you said it in the language your son understands.


LOL. ITA.

[Stephanie]

Oh goodness. I am so sorry.

MIL knows to avoid discussing discipling with me. I think she knows I would bite her head off if she told me to bite him back. Good grief, who is the adult in the situation after all, not my 3 year old.