once again

[fell4myfallbaby]

it is so annoying when people say "why don't you just pump and go out?"
then i reply with "cause he will wake up and want to nurse."
and i usually hear "you need to give him a bottle. that would get old. you need to stop that. it's not good for him to be so attached like that. you have no life whatsoever."

so i am wondering who is this not good for? i'm sick of hearing how i have no life whatsoever. i have more of a life now than i did before my DS. i am happy now. i couldn't go out and hang with friends thinking....what is my baby doing....does he miss me....

and obviously nobody that says this has breastfed. i am a mother. i understand that some mothers do go out and there's nothing wrong with that. it's just not me.

[jodyvo]

I have my times that I like to go shiopping and leave the little one with DH. It is more that I feel that she doesn't want to sit in her carseat. But other than that we love hanging out with our DD.
They are only young once and you should do what is good for you and what you enjoy. If you would rather sit home and nurseyour baby then going out and partying there is nothing wrong with that

[vickikreiner]

No it is not bad. Attachement is good. Motherhood is the best!

Did someone really say to you "you have no life what so ever"...or imply?...I used to get it implied to me a lot.

This society is twisted sometimes...people say staying at home with your child is bad but being selfish is good. While selfish moments may be part of survival, you should do what is best for you and your child...only you know.

[fell4myfallbaby]

jodyvo- yeah i've ran to the store to get stuff without him cause he doesn't like the carseat and he does enjoy playing with other people. i don't have a problem with maybe going out to lunch with a friend or something. but i don't feel comfortable going out at night when he needs that comfort of the breast at random times.

vicki- yeah somebody really did say "you have no life whatsoever" along with "you should just give him a bottle so you aren't so tied down and you're gonna get burnt out." it's so strange that we live in a society that thinks being a mother that is with her child is so awful and takes away from you. even girls i know that are mothers are like that. and who gets burnt out on taking care of their child? haha! he is growing and developing everyday. i wouldn't sleep if i didn't have to. it's not a job...it's a pleasure. i may decide i'd like to go somewhere and let somebody watch him but i'm not like 'oh i need to get away from him.' thanks for commenting by the way!
sorry this is so long. just frustrated.

[whitnessforhim]

There is no place I would rather be than at home nursing my DD.
I've always been a family girl anyways. Even before DD, me and DH rarely did stuff seperate because we enjoy each other so much, thats what marriage is about to me. And to me being a mother is the most joyful thing. I'd pick her over a girls night out any day.

I also get a lot of women who give me the shocked look when I say I'm still nursing DD. Their reply usually is "I don't know how you do it" or "I couldn't do it". Yeah it's an adjustment but it really isn't that "life altering" that you now have "no life". I always add to the shock just for giggles by telling them "yeah we plan to self wean". I get more amusement then anything out of peoples comments.

[RedheadbyChoice]

I tell everyone it's because I'm lazy. :) And it's true, I'm too lazy to pump, that's a hell of a lot of work when I can just lift my shirt and nurse the baby. In 12 years of nursing 4 different kids, mine have never been left with a bottle at MILs or anywhere and I don't feel like I'm missing out on life. And yes, we're active and go places. Between my own kids' sports and activities, plus my nephews' and neighbor girls' things, we're out and about a lot. And the babes just go with us.

[vickikreiner]

Oh man. The nerve. I'd be hot If someone told me I had no life what so ever cause I choose to stay home and nurse. umm umm umm!
Maybe I should feel pity for them, they just don't get it!

[fell4myfallbaby]

witness- i'm the same way. i'd pick him over a night out too! i can't help it that he's fun. haha. i guess i just made him that way. i'd rather hang out and play with him. if i'm somewhere without him i just talk about him.
red- yeah i'm lazy too! i have pumped but i'm definitely not a fan. i hate pumping while he's sitting there wondering what i'm doing to his jugs. i like taking him places too! why should he stay home?
vicki- i do feel sorry for those people....but even more their children. my baby loves me and being with me i feel the same about him. i couldn't imagine having my baby wanting me and leaving to go out. my life is so much better now!!! i used to have trouble with depression and now i haven't had to deal with anything like it yet. when problems come my way i hold my baby pray and go on. so actually i'm finally living my life! i don't understand it either!