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MadisonsMommy
07-08-2008, 09:25 AM
So as you may know my dad is fighting for full custody of my younger brother who is 14 and my sister who is 11. They have court July 15 and my dads attorney said that it look really good that he will get the kids. I do not think my sister has had a period yet. They will be living with us until September. How do I approach her and talk to her about it? What if she has not had the sex talk yet? My parents never told me about sex. I kinda had to find out on my own when it happened. I have no idea how to talk to her about her period or anything. Even if they are not living with us when it happens I will be the one she calls. Any ideas or advice? I only have a 11 month old daughter so we are not that far yet... Lol...
maksmom
07-08-2008, 09:38 AM
There are some great books out there, that you can read together, there is one by American Girls, I'll see if I can find it.
maksmom
07-08-2008, 09:40 AM
Here it is

http://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-You-American-Library/dp/1562476661
MadisonsMommy
07-08-2008, 09:41 AM
Awesome! Thanks! I will check it out!
cbreeding
07-08-2008, 10:26 AM
Maybe one way to bring it up is when she's living with you, to ask her whether you will need to get pads/tampons for her or show her where you keep your supply.
Ultramom
07-08-2008, 10:29 AM
She may have already been introduced to the subject at school. Here, the nurse has her talk with the girls in 4th grade. I'd give her a copy of The Care and Keeping of You & let her know that you are available to discuss anything.
still_me
07-08-2008, 10:34 AM
She may have already been introduced to the subject at school. Here, the nurse has her talk with the girls in 4th grade. I'd give her a copy of The Care and Keeping of You & let her know that you are available to discuss anything.


I agree with this.


Letting her know that she can talk about it also helps it from seeming like such a taboo thing. She shouldn't feel ashamed about her body and seeing someone talk openly about it might help.
Crabbie
07-08-2008, 10:43 AM
That book is what I was going to suggest, I also like the idea of showing her where you keeps you fem hygiene items and you can ask her is she prefers any certain type.
MadisonsMommy
07-08-2008, 11:07 AM
Ok sounds good! She was home schooled and it is my moms job to teach about it... So I just dont know if she knows yet... I think I will buy the book and then show her where I keep my fem items... Thanks Ladies!
MadisonsMommy
07-08-2008, 11:36 AM
What about sex? How do I talk to her about that? Is she too young? What do I tell her if she asks?
Suzette
07-08-2008, 12:29 PM
There's a book called The Period Book which approaches the subject of sex as well in a very age appropriate manner.
MrsKitty
07-08-2008, 01:23 PM
I liked the book this website made

http://www.gurl.com/

and the website itself is good.
TuetonicWillow
07-08-2008, 01:25 PM
What about sex? How do I talk to her about that? Is she too young? What do I tell her if she asks?


The basic truth.

She's 11. She's already heard all about a lot of things at school or from her friends. Just be honest and blunt.
JustMoi
07-08-2008, 04:56 PM
Too YOUNG? Hardly. At 11, a lot of girls are already having sex. You need to talk to her about it, definitely. However, I'd also ask your dad what he thinks about it.

What about sex? How do I talk to her about that? Is she too young? What do I tell her if she asks?
Tiffearni
07-09-2008, 04:29 PM
I agree with JustMoi



11 is definately NOT too young AT ALL. Everyone has given you some great resources. Good luck with everything. I hope the conversation goes well and all others to follow. ;)
TuetonicWillow
07-09-2008, 06:18 PM
FTR, I had b cup breasts and was menstruating at 11.5 yrs old.

It's far from too young.
camille97
07-10-2008, 01:02 AM
By that age, the school has already done the whole period talk thing. IDK, my daughter has known since she was six or so that women have periods. She knew what it was when she got her first one back in May, but I let her come home from school anyhow. ;)

Keep the sex talk to technical terms for now.
EllaBella
07-10-2008, 07:52 AM
I see where you said her mother home schooled her, so you might have to talk about it yourself. Unless her mom did a sex ed class too @ home :) But I am sure she has friends that have started their periods, and some that even talk about sex. I agree with the books, and then you can dispell any myths she might have picked up from friends