S/O: Finding out sexof the baby

[JulieBaby]

For those of you who waiteduntil the birth to find out the sexof your baby, how in the world did you do it?

Was it the first child? What did you do as far as nursery, clothing, etc.

Im not expecting, but I do plan on having another baby in a few years. I have 3 boys, SO has 2 girls and while I know he wouldnt care what we were having I know i'd be dying of curiosity to know if I would be giving him his first boy, or if I'd be having my little girl. But lately ive also been thinking that it may be interesting in not know babys sex.

I have a cousin who has suffered multiple miscarriges (sp?) and shes 8 months pregnant and doesnt want to know the sex. I can completely understand that because after so much heartache shes just overjoyed to be having a baby!

[cbreeding]

We waited to find out, and didn't pick the name until we saw DD. We plan to do the same for all future pregnancies. Neither DH nor I felt strongly either way, but we decided to wait anyway and we're glad we did. As for decorating, I'm not much of a decorator nor do I like to do gender specific decorating. We put a fresh coat of white paint, steam cleaned the blue carpet, and got animal print bedding.

[Sashahomeschoolmama]

We waited until dd was born. We didn't want to but she was uncooperative at the ultrasound. We had a boy name and a girl name picked out and several gender neutral newborn outfits.

She's the only child we did a nursery for and we did classic Pooh, which is gn. We've co-slept with the other kids so a nursery wouldn't be an issue now if we didn't know.

[SueDid]

I didn't find out with any of my six and wouldn't do it any other way were I having more.

When I started having my kids, 21 years ago, ultrasounds were not routinely done. They were done only if there was something specific to look at. I had one at 8 weeks with my first to date the pregnancy (I hadn't had a period for months), I didn't have one at all with either of my older girls and I had one midway with my 4th because my AFP numbers were off.

With the last two, they were part of routine pre-natal care and I had them midway but told the tech specifically that I didn't want to know the sex.

We loved finding out together, in the delivery room, as we met our new wee one. We had both a boy's name and girl's name each time. I also brought an outfit for each. Our nursery wasn't done in a specifically boy or girl theme and we had sleepers that could be used for either sex. After having one of each, we had clothing for both and with the first two, there were enough people that visited and brought little outfits that we had the few we needed for when they are really tiny and I'd pick up things when I was out and about.

Our girls have decided they will likely not find out, either, they had so much fun with the last two as we speculated and dreamed about what the baby would be like, what the household dynamic would be with one sex or the other, plotting sleeping arrangements depending on "what kind" of baby it turned out to be.

[Wolverine]

We did jungle animals for the nursery and gender neutral clothes. I never felt any desire to know as my connection with my fetus had nothing to do with gender and I loved the surprise and the end... after all of that work.

[maksmom]

For those of you who waiteduntil the birth to find out the sexof your baby, how in the world did you do it?Was it the first child? What did you do as far as nursery, clothing, etc.

Im not expecting, but I do plan on having another baby in a few years. I have 3 boys, SO has 2 girls and while I know he wouldnt care what we were having I know i'd be dying of curiosity to know if I would be giving him his first boy, or if I'd be having my little girl. But lately ive also been thinking that it may be interesting in not know babys sex.

I have a cousin who has suffered multiple miscarriges (sp?) and shes 8 months pregnant and doesnt want to know the sex. I can completely understand that because after so much heartache shes just overjoyed to be having a baby!

(bold mine) Bugging the crap out of my in-laws was motivation enough!;)

DD1 I did not have a choice, ultrasounds were not routine at the military hospital we were at the time.

DD2 I did not want to find out b/c my MIL and DH's GM, were so bent on having a boy,(this was their first GC) I knew it would be harder to be disappointed at the birth, as opposed to 4-5 months prior. (Granny had the hardest time, she thought DH was joking when he came out to tell them "it's a girl" and she called Audrey "he" for months after she was born)

DD3 I did find out because I wanted to know if I had to come up with yet another girl's name, and yes I did.:p

[AlrightyRoo]

I have done both (found out with Garrett, but waited with Mason) and I loved waiting. Well, let me rephrase that. Waiting was soooooo hard, but sooooo worth it! I loved finding out the sex of my baby as I met him.

I forgot to say that we painted the baby's room (although he didn't sleep in there, just changed his diapers, lol) green and I figured that pink and green looks really cute as does blue and green. I also went through and picked out all of Garrett's gender neutral baby clothes and then got one thing in case the baby was a girl. I knew that if we had a girl my mom and MIL would run to the store to buy massive amounts of pink cloth, so I wasn't worried.

[Darcy_]

We did not find out with Parker (our first) our nursery was done in bumble bees, You know there are so few good suprises in life, it really kept me motivated in the delivery room.

My mom went nutty buying clothes after she was born, I knew should would so I wasnt worried.

We found out with Serra, I wish we wouldnt have. It was so much fun not knowing with Parker. Hearing them tell us it was a girl was so amazing.

[Mocosita]

We opted to be "surprised" with our only one. The room was themed after "Oh the Places you will go" so we painted each wall a different color : orange, aqua, green and yellow. The clothes were gender neutral: beautiful orange, brown, green and yellow outfits. And we had both a girl and boy name.

Quoting my dh: there are far too many things you can find out in this world with the help of technology, and very few true surprises left. why not let your child's birth be one of them?

We are planning on being surprised the second time around (even though I keep telling him that it will be a girl- and I"m not even preggers!)

[Miamimama]

I have three, I only found out with the last one. I already had a boy and a girl so I had already heard its a boy and its a girl.
We never did a big eloborate nursery, I like to see the personality of the child before I decorate for them.
For clothes I had a few gender neutral items for the first few days, I find people always buy the baby an outfit as a birth gift so you end up with plenty in the correct gender.

[bfmomworries]

the one thing my husband and I were always sure of was that when we finally did start our family, we wanted to wait to find out the gender.

When we did get pregnant and told our families we were waiting, we had reactions of 'oh my god no one does that anymore, how great', and 'oh my god why the heck would you want to wait'. Actually our family was pretty much pro-waiting, and our friends were the ones who were dying to know what we were having.

When we went in for our US, we told the tech we didn't want to know, and we had no problem at that point. The further along the pregnancy, the harder it was to not have known, we hated referring to her as it, so we rotated: on odd days we called her a she and on even days we called her a he. My dad named her Clyde when I was carrying her just so he had something to refer to her as.

But when the doctor told us i the delivery room that it was a girl, that was worth the wait:) We knew we had our Sabrina. And then my husband got the fun of going out to the waiting family and telling them it was a girl:)

I have considered maybe finding out for the next one (when the time comes), just to have experienced both worlds, but I don't know, it was pretty awesome to never know and play the guessing game in my mind for 9 months:)

[Tiffearni]

We waited for both of our kiddos. The first time didn't phase us at all. We were totally convinced that we were having a girl. Although, we did try to stay unisex for a lot, we also got a LOT of VERY girly things like outfits and things like that. Honestly, I don't know what we would have done if we had a boy. Lol We were so convinced.

Now, with DS, I was VERY tempted to find out because although I really thought I was going to have a boy most days, some days I doubted myself. However, I did still get more boy things that time like outfits, blankets, etc.

I just tried so hard to follow my gut. Luckily, things worked out. :) We would have been happy either way of course.

[2much2luv]

I've always found out at an ultrasound. I am absolutely no good at waiting or any of that.

[JulieBaby]

I've always found out at an ultrasound. I am absolutely no good at waiting or any of that.

Lol Im the same way.

But given on the wonderful experiences these ladies have told me, I honestly think if I do have another baby (in a few years!) I think I will see if I can wait on the gender.

I sewar im not trying to be a wicked witch but I sort of agree with one of the pp's, its harder to be dissapointed at the birth then 4-5 months prior. Id really like a girl, so I can turn off baby making for good, and while I would be 'dissapointed' per say i'd probably be a bit sad to find out im not getting my girl while im pregnant. I think Id hardly care if I found out AT the birth when I am holding a gorgeous baby in my arms :)

[Violet]

I didnt find out for all threed of mine. I did a noahs ark theme for my oldest and used in again for my DD #2. When I was pregnant with my third I used alot of yellow. We had a girl and a boy name picked out.

[kohlby]

We did find out. However, DS's room was decorated before he was concieved. After two losses at that time, I painted a nursery as a room of hope. I did a Dr. Seuss theme and took hours upon hours painting characters on the wall. I knew that someway or another, we would get a baby for that room. It was light blue but I consider blue for either gender. (Actually, DD's room is light blue now!) In the end, DS didn't sleep in his room until around 2 years anyways and we never did a nursery for DD due to it. So, painting a nursery isn't a big deal.

For clothes, the bigger issue is size over gender. It's easy to buy gender neutral stuff if someone isn't sure. Or, with DD, she wore plenty of boyish sleepers since it didn't really matter. However, we had to go to the hospital both times with a 0-3 months outfit and a 3-6 month one since we weren't sure which one they would fit into. (DS ended up wearing 3 months size for 2 weeks, DD was born into the 6 month size). So, even if you plan for gender, it's tricky to plan for size. I think those with preemies would also have that issue.