Question about DS and biting - xposted

[PilotswifePA]

Craig has bitten two of his friends in the last 6 months. Both times he was being restrained by them and I'm sure it was done out of fear as he hasn't bitten in any other situations. DH and I have addressed this issue with him and he admitted that he did it because they were being mean. I saw it happen yesterday with Louie. Louie and Craig were wrestling in the yard. Louie is a full head taller and about 10 lbs heavier than Craig and he was on top of Craig. I heard Louie yell out that Craig bit him and I put Craig in time out. I also made sure that no skin was broken (it wasn't) and that Craig apologized. Louie said something to me today that his mom wanted to talk to me about it...so I would like some ideas as to what I should say....other than "I'm sorry it happened".

Thanks

[maksmom]

I'd just let them know, that we are working on changing the behavior, and that it only happens when Ds is defending himself.

DD3 will bite, alot sometimes, and sometimes with out any reason, so consider yourself lucky! LOL

[Nipple_nectar]

How old is the biter?

[PilotswifePA]

He's 4...Louie is 5

[cream_city]

Honestly, kids will sometimes bite at that age, especially if they're being pummeled by a larger child.

I would be a little miffed if the parents said something to me about it after one incident. My son was bitten several times in preschool and I never said anything to their parents. If it kept happening, that would be different.

If they do say anything, I would politely say that we're working on it. I would also explain the circumstances and try to reframe it as a joint problem. Like, perhaps both you and Louie's parents could just keep a slightly closer eye on the boys to make sure things don't get physical like that -- it seems like Louie was as out of line as your son, to me.