It sucks not having friends...bloggy

[JulieBaby]

When I was with XDH it was really crappy not having any friends, because I couldnt confide my problems to anyone. My only friend is living in the USA and ive lost contact with her :(

Now that I am with SO I really wish I had a friend to talk to, someone that I can confide in, and tell them how wonderful it is to have someone who cares for me, someone I can vent to about XDH's infidelity and all the crap he continues to do to me even after our seperation.

Ive been talking alot with my XBIL's wife, but she has her messed up world to deal with, and everytime she and I talk she always brings up XDH and how bad he treats his new partner and her kids, and I know in part that she only talks to me so she has new information to reel back to her DH and MIL. But still I find myself calling her every so often, to see how she is doing, and to hear her talk, even if it is about things i'd rather not hear.

It sucks because all I do all day is clean, cook and take care of my kids (dont get me wrong I ADORE my children), but it would be nice to have someone over every once in a while, or meet a friend for lunch, etc.

I feel like im turning into a freakin hermit. Im worried that by the time we make our trip to see his girls in December im going to be so anti social everyone will thinkim a weirdo.

Sorry, I had to get that out

[Rieckah]

Can you join a playdate group or something to meet mom's? Is there a La Leche League in your area?

[JudyJudyJudy]

I'm sorry you're feeling lonely. I know it's not the same as real-life friends, but you can tell us all you feel comfortable telling us.

[JudyJudyJudy]

Oh, and I'm becoming more and more of a hermit with age. If it were not for Jacob and my needing to get out for him, I'd probably hole myself up at home unless I absolutely had to get out.

[JulieBaby]

Oh, and I'm becoming more and more of a hermit with age. If it were not for Jacob and my needing to get out for him, I'd probably hole myself up at home unless I absolutely had to get out.


This is what I have been doing and I know I should not. Its pretty hard to get out of the house with 3 kids by myself. Just getting them in the car is exhausting.

[hoosierchic]

I feel for ya! I have some friends around here but we don't really get out together too often. They all stay pretty busy with their own families. Do you attend church? If so, I'm sure they are classes you could attend there (Sunday school or Wednesday night classes) to get to know some people better. There is also MOPS that you might be interested in. =)

[oomaumau04]

I am the same way. I really miss having a friend to talk to, or just someone to call once in awhile. I don't know what to do about it, and I think I'm getting worse at being with people. :( And I work outside of the house!