My friend is getting married today.

[3girls2luv]

I don't really know how I feel about it though. He is a nice guy but not very mature. He 14yrs younger than she is which I don't have a problem with that. He does not have a job he drinks and shows up to work drunk and he gets fired at all of his jobs. HE IS NOT EVEN OLD ENOUGH TO DRINK.

She makes good money and he told us joking one day that since she makes good money she needs to "work her ass off" so he can sleep all day and still have money to party. Its her first marriage and I married someone sort of like that and he was a no good looser.

I won't say anything to her bc I was there once and no matter what people told me *I was in LUV* and it did not matter what anyone said. Her family is totally against it and they have not even met him. I hope she is happy and if not I guess I will be here to pick the pieces when her heart gets broken. I will never tell her *I told you so* even though I would like to tell her what I think. She will be getting married in 5 minutes.

[whitnessforhim]

If it were me...I would've said something.

I hope it works out ok.

[kohlby]

I would have said something before the marriage too - but it would have been along the lines of, I will support whatever you do, but that doesn't mean I'm going to like it. I've never had someone marry someone they shouldn't but I have had a close friend dating people they shouldn't. She didn't need a lecture from me. But I felt I had to speak my mind so she could get an outside perspective. (A friend dated a married man for while so it was more than just how I saw things!)

At this point, all you can do is be there for her. It doesn't sound that he'll surprise you, but you never know. At least he's doing this when he's young - he has greater potential to grow up. I'd worry more if it was a 35 year old acting like this. I did things in my early 20's which were far from mature. But when I had to act like an adult, I did as well as anyone else. It has to be hard, but try to give him a chance. He might not deserve one, but she does. It will mean a lot to her - and let her feel like she can come to you if she does have problems.

[MrsKitty]

That is rough. Just be there for her now, thats all you can do really.

[3girls2luv]

I am the only one of her freinds that has not said anything to her about him and she tells me that is hurts her feelings when people say bad things about him. She knows he is young but she says he really loves her. I hope it works out for her and I will probably be the only freind that will tolerate him after the marriage. She is a grown woman and she is able to make her own decisions so all I can do in sympathize with her if it fails or help support when no one else will.