Those who babysit or have in home day care.

[3girls2luv]

My mom takes care of my friend's baby and he will be 6mos this month. She was only going to watch him until he was about 4mos and his mom was going to find a daycare facility for him.

Well she has not mentioned anything about looking for a day care and my mom really wants to stop watching him because she wants to be able to go places during the day. She takes care of my 19mo dd and she wants to be able to take her places too. My mom is 61 and she does not think she can watch two toddlers at the same time.

Here is my questions: How should my mom bring this up? My mom does not want to put her in a bind and does not want to hurt her feelings. I told my mom that she should just give her at least 1mo in advance and tell her point blank that she does not want to watch him anymore. How much time should she give her to find a daycare?

[KerryS]

I think one month is MORE than generous, since the original agreement was until 4 months, and the baby has now been there for two months longer.

I'd probably give 2 weeks.

[alejorge]

the only problem with finding a daycare that is affordable is that most of them have a waiting list. the mom should have started looking immediately for a daycare.

[crissyy]

I think that the problem of finding a daycare is totally on the mom's shoulders and your mom shouldn't feel guilty. It seems to me that she has taken advantage of your mom. I also think 1 month is MORE than generous. As Kerry said, she's already past the original agreement anyway.

[BeachMama]

I'd give her a month to find a new daycare provider. She's taking advantage of your mom and is not being responsible. It is not your moms responsibility.

I've had to tell people I'm no longer going to watch their kids. One was because their dd hated being at my house, so that was for her own well being. The other one was just a time thing. It was cutting into our family time, so I just told them the truth.

[3girls2luv]

Telling her the truth seems pretty easy but my mom is afraid it will put a strain in our freindship. I feel that her taking advantage of my mom is putting more of a strain because I am not liking what she is doing. She also has been late two times with payment. Should I intervene if my mom can't?

[KerryS]

Should I intervene if my mom can't?

Absolutely not.

Sounds like your mom is using your friendship as an excuse to not have a confrontation.

[3girls2luv]

Absolutely not.

Sounds like your mom is using your friendship as an excuse to not have a confrontation.


Really?

[KerryS]

Absolutely. If you have already told your mom that she should say something to her, and she is still hesitant to confront her, what other reason would she have for not doing so?

[xobehs]

The waitlists for daycare where we live is 6 months to a year. I do agree one month is plenty.

[3girls2luv]

She is going to tell her but my mom and I are very nonconfrontational so before we do or say things that may lead to a confrontation of possible hurt feelings, we think it out and discuss it first.

[Camille]

ITA with Kerry's posts.