How do I do it? DD needs to sleep in her crib...

[Now_serving_number4]

DD ( 15 months) has slept with me or next to me ( mostly with me on the booby) since around 4 months old. I have had enough with being uncomfortable in my bed. She has a great crib in her room that she shares with her 5 YO sis. Mind you my baby WILL NOT sleep anywhere without me.

IDK what to do. I have ADD so reading about it is VERY hard for me ( I skip a lot when reading and the words jumble together). I have tried laying her down and rubbing her back, she gets right up and screams the whole time. I try laying her back down as soon as she gets up, she screams, It's so hard since she is so strong willed. I hate seeing her sad face as she flips out because she is not with me so I give in. Mind you my kids will scream for hours if need be ( I know from temper tantrums).

What can I do to transition her to her crib? I have never had this problem before with any of my kids.

[babymakes4]

have you considered maybe sidecaring her crib so she is still beside you but in her own sleeping space?

[maksmom]

have you considered maybe sidecaring her crib so she is still beside you but in her own sleeping space?


This is a great idea. It could be a starting point to slowly moving the crib out of your room and back into her room.

[Sputterduck]

I don't know. At 15 months my son would never have slept alone. But at 24 months I transitioned him with no crying.

[babymakes4]

another thing is do you have a solid bedtime routine for her? That is really helpful. I start about 9pm (he goes in his bed at 10pm) every night and Owen has a bath, a book, and some cudddle time in bed with the lights down low, we talk and sing little songs. He is 2 1/2. Then we walk together to his room and he goes to bed. It has taken me a long time to get him to the point he is.

The most important thing is the bedtime routine, same time, every time. And, Don't put her down in her crib until she is tired enough to fall asleep or is falling asleep.

[Tiffearni]

I think she has been sleeping with you that long maybe you might want to try putting the crib in your room next to your bed. Then once she gets used to that, maybe you could put it back in her room. You know sort of transition her. KWIM?

Unless you want to maybe cuddle her in her room and don't mind staying in there beside her bed with her until she falls asleep. That's a tough habit to break though especially at that age. I did this with DD, then everytime she woke up in the middle of the night, she would scream and cry unless I would sit there with her for her to fall back asleep.

Transitioning may take a little longer, but I really think it'd be less stressful besides actually moving the crib.

[Tiffearni]

I agree with BM4 about solid bedtime and not laying her down until she's very tired.

[haleysmom]

I think she has been sleeping with you that long maybe you might want to try putting the crib in your room next to your bed. Then once she gets used to that, maybe you could put it back in her room. You know sort of transition her. KWIM?

Unless you want to maybe cuddle her in her room and don't mind staying in there beside her bed with her until she falls asleep. That's a tough habit to break though especially at that age. I did this with DD, then everytime she woke up in the middle of the night, she would scream and cry unless I would sit there with her for her to fall back asleep.

Transitioning may take a little longer, but I really think it'd be less stressful besides actually moving the crib.


This. I would definately slowly transition her. That has to be a big change for her, especially at that age.

Haley always slept with me. And now her crib is next to my bed (sidecar) and I nurse her to sleep in her bed. That took a little while for her to get used to, but now it's working. Now if she wakes up, I nurse her back to sleep on her bed. Some nights she'll come onto my bed with me and we'll fall asleep again, but for the most part, we each have our own space.

[Now_serving_number4]

I do have a small crib side cared to my bed but she will not sleep in it.

[haleysmom]

I do have a small crib side cared to my bed but she will not sleep in it.


Can you move her while she is sleeping? I would put Haley to bed on my bed with me, and move her when she was asleep. It took a little while, but now she will lay in her bed to fall asleep.

[HammBugga]

She sounds just like J. I am over trying to force him out of my bed. I just pray that one day he does it on his own. He is WAY too strong willed.

[Now_serving_number4]

HM, I have tried...she wakes right up no matter how asleep she was.

HB, tell me about it. What does J do when you try?

[HammBugga]

He screams. And screams. And screams.

[camillesmommy]

My dd is 14 months and we are in the exact same boat. I am not sure what to do. Dd still wakes up every 2 hours and has to nurse back to sleep. I am seriously sleep deprived.

[Sunnie]

She sounds just like J. I am over trying to force him out of my bed. I just pray that one day he does it on his own. He is WAY too strong willed.


Yeah, this. With all 3 of my kids. I just waited it out and my older two were on their own by 3. Nathan is now sleeping in a toddler bed next to mine for part of the night.

[haleysmom]

HM, I have tried...she wakes right up no matter how asleep she was.



Gotcha. That's what Haley used to do. For me, time was the only thing that made a difference. I hope you figure something out!

[JustMoi]

I knew there was a reason I did not cosleep, and this was it. It seemed easier for nursing to have them sleep with me, but I wasn't willing to set the precedent of having them sleep with me, get used to it, and then when *I* got sick of it... I wouldn't be able to get them out.

It just seemed easier for me to have them in their own bed... and get up when they needed to eat.

All I can suggest is the No Cry Sleep Solution.

[HammBugga]

Well my reason for co sleeping had nothing to do with nursing. I had to make sure they were breathing all the time and it was easier if they were sleeping right next to me. Otherwise I would have never slept.

[Amy_G_]

work on weaning them from going to sleep nursing. yeah, it sucks, but get them almost out and put em down. make sure you push up on their lower jaw to close their mouth, so they aren't looking for that thing that is missing from their mouths--your nipple.

then work on weaning them from having to go to sleep touching you. well you can work on weaning them from nursing and touching you at the same time, but it requires a bit of unusual positions to keep them from touching all of you, just your boob. If they are used to going to sleep in your bed, nursing and with you touching, then they kind of expect everytime they wake up to be in your bed, nursing and touching you.

or you can work on nursing to sleep, and then rolling your back to em, put a pillow between you, get a larger size teddy bear and have em nurse holding the bear, and then you sneak out and let em have the bear to hold. anything you try is going to take a lot of repetition.

I wouldn't put em in the crib at that age, cause mine would climb out, so it defeated the purpose. Mine would climb out as soon as they could pull up on furniture, but I grow monkeys.

one way to get out of the holding while asleep, is while they are still partly awake, say "I have to go pee, be right back." unlatch, sneak out of the room after a hug/pat, whatever. then come right back before they cry. each night, try to increase the time, or increase the number of times you are out of the room--so you might say I have to go pee and stay gone 1 minute, then come back for 5 minutes and then say I have to go feed the cat, then come back in 2 minutes and stay for less minutes. repeat as needed until one time you are out of the room while they fall asleep, and then continue it.

I've found that once you don't have to be in the room while they go to sleep, then it's easier to move them to a different bed. 15 months may be too young for this to work quickly, but it will work eventually. my boys still like to go to sleep in my bed though--we have a slumber, snuggle party most weekends, and they are 8 and 12 years old. My bed is special to them. but that's ok.

[SarahFae]

Can you move her while she is sleeping? I would put Haley to bed on my bed with me, and move her when she was asleep. It took a little while, but now she will lay in her bed to fall asleep.

I did this with Shay, but we also changed his crib to a transitional bed so he could come over by us whenever he wanted without crying in his crib until one of us went to go get him.

[mommyof2sons]

We just started working on this with our 13 month old. He has slept with us from day #1. We put a toddler bed in our room right next to our bed. He has slept in it some, but not too much. I figure a little at a time is best right now. He still wakes up a couple of times at night to nurse too.

[hotlama]

What about putting a twin/crib mattress on the floor in your room or dd's room and nursing her to sleep on the mattress. Once she's asleep you can get up and go to bed. If she wakes up, lay down with her again. Since the mattress in on the floor you wouldn't have to worry about her falling out of bed.