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JulieBaby
09-01-2008, 10:29 AM
Yes, another one. I never learn do I?

My mother has turned into a total bitch (please excuse my French). She is being absolutely hateful with everyone, and it seems like the majority of the time she is taking things out on me, and saying things she really shouldnt.

First of all, she criticises (sp?) everything I do with my kids (which has leadto me being very distant with her). She criticeses the fact that my boys have been on sippies since about 11 months, that I am using Drypers (WTF??), that I am giving my boys jarred food, that my children are put in carseats to go to my grandmothers house (1/2 a block away), that I RF the twins still, etc. etc.

The beginning of last week I asked her to stay with the twins for a few hours on Saturday, so that SO and I could take DS1 to a car show and she agreed. So she stays with them and when I leave them with her she starts to bitch about how id better not get home late because she didnt want to stay up with them until late (they are in bed by 7!) (BTW we left at 1pm and were back at 6).

Then Sunday morning I go down to the laundry room (we live in the same place, she lives in the downstairs house I live in the second level). and she is washing. I ask her to let me know when she is done so that I cant do laundry and she starts yelling and bitching how it always bothers me when she does laundry.

I got pretty mad at this point and told her to forget it, i'd try to get to the laundry mat sometime this week. SO she tells me I am all pissy and depressed because I have 3 kids and cant go anywhere with them and that I am always having to depend on her to watch my kids!

Most of the times she is the one that offers to watch them, and when I go out Friday nights my sisteris the one who sits for me (I really wouldnt call it baby sitting since the boys are asleep and she just plays on the computer).

I am tired of this shit. It is now 11:30 am and I have not even opened up my door, and I wont go finish my laundry until she has left. Im sick and tired, I never expected my own mother to be the one constantly dishing out the psychological abuse. My step dad tells me he is doing the same thing to him and I hear her cursing at my sister all day.

Thanks for letting me vent!

babymakes4
09-01-2008, 10:34 AM
sounds like it might be time to consider moving. Distance from this woman would seem to be a good thing.

haleysmom
09-01-2008, 10:54 AM
#1- Bitch is not french.

#2- Why would you continue to use her as a babysitter if she gives you such problems?

#3- If having a sit-down with her wouldn't change anything, I would consider getting away. Living so close obviously isn't working for either of you.

auntielaurie
09-01-2008, 11:01 AM
Just so you know, bitch is not french.

tabatha
09-01-2008, 02:02 PM
I think she knows it's not french.. She just using it as a figure of speech...

Julie, i'm sorry your having a rough time, i hope that things get better for you.

I also think that Julie is just frustrated and is needing a sounding board, not criticism, we've all been there..

Crabbie
09-01-2008, 02:59 PM
Vent away. Do you guys not know a figure of speech when you see one? That one is OLD.

I'd be telling my mother things that probably shouldn't come out of my mouth if she said those things to me.

hotlama
09-01-2008, 07:48 PM
Has she always been like this or is this something new?

Earthmama
09-01-2008, 08:46 PM
When my mom says, "Excuse my French", my response is usually, "That's not French." It's our running joke & I think others do that, too. Not criticism, just wit.

FWIW, my mother and I could never live together, either.

If this is something new, I would be worried about what could be causing it.

haleysmom
09-01-2008, 09:33 PM
Of course I know it's a figure of speech.

Teresa64
09-01-2008, 10:50 PM
If at all possible MOVE!!! It will only get worse. I HATED living with my MIL. She is psyco, pill popping bitch...lol...but I can tolerate her now that we don't live with her. She still annoys the crap out of me...but at least I can go home...
We lived with DH's folks for over 2 years. Not fun.