sleep crisis

[Lumatiza]

The whole family is in a sleep crisis - help! My 11 mnth. old will not sleep in her own crib and the family bed thing isn't working out. I have back aches, I don't sleep well, and my hubbie and I need some alone time! I can sometimes get her to sleep in her crib if she falls asleep bf but usually she just wakes up the minute I lay her down. I tried letting her cry in two minute intervals for about ten minutes, in between I would stroke her and give her the binkie. But I couldn't take listening to her scream anymore and so I gave in. She seemed really upset even when I transfered her to our bed. She kept whimpering for 15 minutes afterwards like she didn't trust that I wasn't going to leave her this time. I'm really bad at the sleep stuff because a. I'm weak and b. I'm so tired at night that I have no patience. Any emotionally easier methods?

[JudyJudyJudy]

I don't have any answers since ds always slept with us, but I'm bumping this for you. I hope you're able to get some decent sleep soon. :hug:

[Sputterduck]

Why does your back hurt? I always got comfy and adjusted DS's body to mine so I slept well.

I'm sorry she won't sleep in her crib. Mine didn't either for about 2 years.

[frannie]

I gave up trying to get dd to sleep in his crib. He now has own dip in the middle of our bed. lol
I used to be so uncomfortable with him in the bed because I was on my side nursing him all night long it seemed and when he fell asleep i didnt dare move and wake him up. Some one here said he was probably nursing all night cause he could smell my milk with my boob in his face all night. That night as soon as he feel asleep I unlatched him and turn over real quick, he whimpered for a second and fell back to sleep. Its been great ever since.

[Lumatiza]

Thanks for the replies. I wish co-sleeping would work but the nights that actually do get her into her own crib, the next day I feel so great because I'm rested and was able to spend intimate time with my husband.

[jessiehannan]

Can you sidecar the crib? That way all you would have to do is slide her in and out of her crib.

[Lumatiza]

Hmmm you mean one of those half cribs that stick to the side of your bed? Do they have those for older babies?

[jessiehannan]

All it is is a regular crib with the side taken off, and next to your bed. Let me find the last post we had about it for you...

[frannie]

How does it work out when your DH puts her in her crib. When my Dh put Ben down in his crib for naps he always stayed asleep. I think Ben really doesnt like his crib because it is'nt as soft as our bed.

Have you tried putting one of your t-shirts in with her so she can still smell your scent.

[jessiehannan]

All it is, is a regular crib with one side taken off, and pushed flush against your bed, with precautionary measures taken to prevent the baby from falling in between the two mattresses. I cannot find the good thread that I remember, sorry.

[Earthmama]

Was this it?
http://www.breastfeeding.com/forums/showthread.php?t=31499&highlight=co-sleepers

[jessiehannan]

That is the one! I knew some one would find it, even if I couldn't.

[Earthmama]

I got your back, girl. ;) But I'm going to bed now.

[jessiehannan]

Sleep well. All I have got that starts with an S is a bad case of the sneezes. Damned dust!

[Wolverine]

How about nursing baby to sleep on a mattress on the floor or pile of quilts so you can sneak away and be with dh?