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3girls2luv
10-09-2008, 12:29 PM
people who ask my professional oppinion just to ignore or mock me. I have some friends who have a baby and she took my class and BF. Well at 3.5 mos they fed him some steak and his dad said he just sucked on the juice (the steak was not well done) at 4mos the mom asked when to give cereal and I printed out the info from Kelly mom. She still gave cereal and added it to his bottle.

She was using a manual pump at work and her supply was going down so she asked how to increase it, I let her borrow my electric double pump and she said it was too much hassle.

Now her DS has a major red and bleeding diaper rash. I asked her what he ate and she said "we gave him cake and icecream at a b-day party this weekend." The baby has all the symptoms of milk allergy yet she ignores the pedi. He has green frothy diarrhea and his bottom looks horrible and she says it is from the wipes. He is only 7mos old.

His dad picked him up yesterday and told DH "tell L that ds eats everything he is not supposed and he has not died yet....lol" WHY the hell do they ask for me to give them info. just to mock me!!! His wife knows that he should not eat dairy but they just don't relay the irritated diaper rash to something he ate. Oh and I don't even want to start with the car seat stuff. I will just say this, his dad plans to front face him soon because rear facing is boring since he can not see out. Ok vent over.
QuiltyConscience
10-09-2008, 12:49 PM
I'm sorry you are frustrated. Some people do listen and will appreciate it, You can't do much about the ones who won't. You did what you could.

Have a chocolate bunny. Chocolate bunny will make you feel better.

"easter"
3girls2luv
10-09-2008, 12:56 PM
Chocolate always makes me feel better. Thanks.

I don't like going around giving my opinion to others just because I teach parenting, childbirth and car seat safety, but when I am asked I give them evidence based inforomation not just my opinion. I teach by knowlege and not experience. I was a first time mom who gave up bf after 2 days, used after market products on my car seat, put cereal in a bottle and front faced my child at 6mos. I did this because I did not know better and no one else knew either. Had I known this or had I been taught by someone, things would have been different. I just feel bad when I am asked my advice on something and then its just ignored and I see the baby suffering from the choices the parent made after being told that it is not safe.
QuiltyConscience
10-09-2008, 12:59 PM
My Mom always told me that you could fix ignorant, but you can't fix stupid.
jessiehannan
10-09-2008, 01:00 PM
:hug:
Sputterduck
10-09-2008, 01:08 PM
My Mom always told me that you could fix ignorant, but you can't fix stupid.


Your mother is wise. If people are bound and determined to be stupid with their children, there is nothing you can do about it.:(
Sputterduck
10-09-2008, 01:10 PM
I'd be hard pressed not to full on insult their parenting and tell them if I had their baby for two weeks the symptoms would all be gone.
Bohemian
10-09-2008, 01:13 PM
I'm sorry! I had a sil like that. She really acted like she was interested in bf and I spent a lot of time and energy trying to help her. Then I found out in the first few days the baby was born that she planned to ff all along. Sometimes people want your help and advice but still think they ultimately know better. I don't get it.
Funmommy
10-09-2008, 01:34 PM
don't let one couple negate all the good you've done for sooo many people!
You can't fix the world ... all you can do is be there for the ones who WANT the help.
Don't waste your time or energy on those who don't.
:hug:
3girls2luv
10-09-2008, 01:57 PM
don't let one couple negate all the good you've done for sooo many people!
You can't fix the world ... all you can do is be there for the ones who WANT the help.
Don't waste your time or energy on those who don't.
:hug:


Thanks. I changed the baby yesterday and his bottom looks so raw and irritated. My mom is using the butt paste you all recomended when dd has a diaper rash, along with cornstarch and it seems to be clearing up today. The next time they ask for advice I am just going to say "well I can tell you what I know but what do *you* want to do?"