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CatEyes
10-14-2008, 09:25 PM
My neighbor who is 21 got his 16 year old GF pregnant. I thought this was interesting to read.


Most teen pregnancies caused by adult men

http://daily-journal.com/archives/dj/display.php?id=429083

By Hayley Graham

Study finds them in positions of power

Teenage mother Kortesha Jones's story is a familiar one. She's part of a growing national epidemic fueled by insufficient sex education, the sexualization of young women in the media and ignorance.

Two stories have brought this issue front and center in the public discourse: The recent high-profile teenage pregnancy of Alaskan Gov. Sarah Palin's daughter, and her engagement to her teenage boyfriend, as well as the recent hit movie, "Juno," which portrayed teen pregnancy as humorous and whimsical.

But both images do not give an accurate picture of the problem or those involved.

Half of the time, a teen pregnancy does not even involve two teens close in age. The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy estimates 52 percent of the fathers are three years or more older than the moms; and about two-thirds of the fathers are age 20 and over.

In Illinois, the largest group of fathers involved in fathering a child with a teenage mother were between the ages of 20 and 24 -- that age group accounted for 48 percent of teen births during 2006, the latest year available. Only 10 percent of the fathers were under age 18.

"There is reason for parents to be concerned with these types of relationships," said Bill Albert, chief program officer for the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.

Abusive roles

The older the partner, the greater the risk for abuse.

One in five American teen girls has had sex with a sexual partner who is three or more years older, according to a report released in April by Child Trends, an independent research center that focuses on children and families.

Even if the relationship is consensual, there is a significant power difference that puts the man in a controlling role.

The risk of unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease increases significantly with older partners because they are less likely to use condoms, the report said.

Kortesha started having sex with her then boyfriend last summer, but the two used condoms only occasionally. Her mother, Teresa Carroll, said she talked to her daughter about the effectiveness of condoms, but Kortesha said using protection did not always seem necessary and emotions often took over.

These relationships are still considered a form of sex abuse whether they are consensual or not, and many occur with a teenager who has had a history of previous abuse. (There is not indication that this is the case with Kortesha.)

Darkness to Light, an international non-profit that raises awareness of sex abuse, estimates 60 percent of teens' first pregnancies are preceded by molestation, rape or attempted rape.

"We ignore the fact that many of these young women are groomed into being sexually abused and are victims of a crime," said Pat Patrick, vice president of Darkness to Light. "These are still children being victimized."

A number of studies have indicated a strong correlation between the abuse and teen pregnancy, according to Patrick. When children are sexualized at a young age, and that barrier is broken, they become more promiscuous.

Criminal fatherhoods

Kankakee Detective Sgt. Jay Etzel said most cases like Kortesha's go unreported. The handful that are reported often do not get prosecuted.

"Sometimes families don't want to go through a trial," Etzel said.

Society, in general, turns a blind eye toward this behavior and does not consider the men involved sexual predators when involved with teenage girls. The societal perception often changes when older man prey upon younger boys.

Some experts say prosecution of the men in teenage pregnancy cases would serve as a prevention tool.

"We've got to get a message out to everyone that this does occur, that this does happen in our society and hold perpetrators accountable," said Patrick.

But not everyone agrees.

Cara Smith, deputy chief of staff at the Illinois Attorney General's office, said there is not enough evidence to suggest that. "I don't think you can make the correlation."

CatEyes
10-14-2008, 09:54 PM
Most of the men I had sex with as a teen were much older than I was.


Same here

alejorge
10-15-2008, 08:20 AM
Well I hvae been with my DH since I was 14 so I have never had sex with someone who was older than me.

My SIL had her first baby at 16. Her boyfriend is 7 or 8 years older than her. She was sexualy abused as a child by her godfather. And then there was some mental abuse by her mom. She is now a mommy of 2 beautiful kids. She is still with the same man. He treats her like a princess. Anything and everything she could ever need he gets for her. When she got pregnant with her first baby the police wanted her to press charges cause he was so much older than her. She wouldn't do it and neither would her parents. It was consentual. When the police asked her where she got pregnant she replied very truthfully. In the car!!! That girl is just crazy soemtimes I swear.

jessiehannan
10-15-2008, 11:50 AM
My DH was 21 and I was 17 when I got pregnant. Also completely consentual. We had been dating for over 2 years, and engaged for almost as long when I got pregnant.

Tiffearni
10-15-2008, 03:31 PM
I always dated older men (I wasn't interested in younger guys - maturity) until I met DH, so yes my first sexual encounters were with men who were older than me. One guy wanted to hook up with me and he was 28 when I was 13. I should've turned him in, but he was sooooo hot, and that thought never crossed my mind. Now, looking back I think he was a sicko and should be in jail for even considering fooling around with me. I'm glad I was never alone with him.

The guy I lost my virginity to was 6 years older than me.

FrznPolarAngel
10-15-2008, 04:01 PM
My mother in law was 14 when she engaged in a sexual relationship with my husbands father who was 24. She had my husband at age 16. It was consensual. They married shortly after my husband was born.

Truthfully, his father should have gone to jail. A 24 year old has NO business engaging in a relationship with a child...let alone a sexual one!

nicurn
10-15-2008, 04:43 PM
In my years as a PHN for teens, I never had a single mother under the age of 16 (that's 15 or younger) who had been impregnated by a boy. Every single father was over the age of 18, and the majority were over 25.

However, once they hit 16, the majority were in relationships with a person within 2-3 years of their own age. I realize that this still allows for 18 year old fathers, but their maturation was in the same ballpark.