Nprmal 3 yr old behavior?

[Jmom1010]

My son just was moved into the preschool room at daycare along with most of his class. Well there about 4 boys that seem to be very "wild" they chase each other trying to knock each other down, hit each other and pull on each other's clothes. Not sure if this is normal or should I say acceptable social behavior for boys this age. The teachers in the room seem to ignore it, but it is translating into my son hitting us at home usually in play sometimes in anger. And when he is around a few of his non daycare going friends he does it them and they seem intimidated by it. I plan on talking to the director about it to at least see what if any disicipline they use in the room. A few weeks ago I had to speak to them about the same 4 boys playing "guns" in the room. I have not had any problems with this daycare until DS moved into the preschool room. One teacher seems to be pretty good but the other seems lethargic and apathetic.

[Jmom1010]

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[Peanut1207]

I taught early childhood (3,4, and 5) for 6 years so maybe I can help a little. yes the rough and tumble behavior is normal for boys but there should absolutely be limits on what is acceptable and what isn't...my students always found it fun to drag each other around in the gym floor, no one could really get hurt so I was fine with it...any type of hitting or wrestling was not okay. no guns were allowed ever. no questions asked. you play guns you get one warning then time out (I worked in a violent neighborhood so safety was key). talk to the teachers!

[madelsmama]

OK how do I fix my title line it has a typo.
Click edit. Click "go advanced". From that screen you should be able to edit your title.

No ideas wrt your question. Sounds like boy-stuff; all girls stuff over here!

(((Karen)))


Hey, how'd he do on his night away from mom and dad? Did I miss the follow-up?

[threefunboys]

Um, quit your job? If he's at home with you, you will know exactly what he's doing and exposed to all day. Or switch daycares. Those are really the only two options, I think.

Being rough, running around, etc. are all typical boy behaviors. Little boys have lots of energy they need to get out. You can't necessarily say that the daycare situation is causing him to hit, though. All kids hit. Every parent that there ever was has wondered how to teach their kids not to hit. Whoever finds the answer will be rich. It takes time--many years--for kids to learn to control themselves.

HTH!

[Jacksmommy]

Jack's at home with me, so it's different for us. He can be wild. He'll definitely run around all the time. He runs everywhere. I have a hard time even picturing him walking. I think if he were around more rough and tumble type play that he'd quickly start acting that way himself. As it is now he runs and jumps all over the place to have an outlet for his energy. We just say that he has a lot of power.

[Jmom1010]

Click edit. Click "go advanced". From that screen you should be able to edit your title.

No ideas wrt your question. Sounds like boy-stuff; all girls stuff over here!

(((Karen)))


Hey, how'd he do on his night away from mom and dad? Did I miss the follow-up?


He did awesome. He was up at 5:30 because my FIL gets up that early. But he was fine, didn't even ask for me LOL.

[Jmom1010]

Um, quit your job? If he's at home with you, you will know exactly what he's doing and exposed to all day. Or switch daycares. Those are really the only two options, I think.

Being rough, running around, etc. are all typical boy behaviors. Little boys have lots of energy they need to get out. You can't necessarily say that the daycare situation is causing him to hit, though. All kids hit. Every parent that there ever was has wondered how to teach their kids not to hit. Whoever finds the answer will be rich. It takes time--many years--for kids to learn to control themselves.

HTH!


Hitting has not really ever been my son's MO. He hit a little as a little toddler but, he was more of a pincher. The hitting has just started to occur since being mixed in with all the kids. Before the rooms were divided so each teacher has less kids to watch and they were younger and the ratio was lower.

[madelsmama]

Um, quit your job? If he's at home with you, you will know exactly what he's doing and exposed to all day. Or switch daycares. Those are really the only two options, I think.

Being rough, running around, etc. are all typical boy behaviors. Little boys have lots of energy they need to get out. You can't necessarily say that the daycare situation is causing him to hit, though. All kids hit. Every parent that there ever was has wondered how to teach their kids not to hit. Whoever finds the answer will be rich. It takes time--many years--for kids to learn to control themselves.

HTH!

I agree that most kids hit. But most of them learn it from somewhere, be it from their own parents (as used in spanking) or from a peer. And just b/c a behavior is doesn't mean it's okay.

I don't have boys, so I'm sticking my neck out here. But while "boys will be boys", I think something is to be said for a little control in the classroom (yes, even at age 3). Often I wonder if that expression is used in instances where it should not be. Yes, boys are active and exploring, but that should not necessarily allow for pushing, knocking down and hitting.

I think speaking with the director is an excellent idea to find of what types of behavior are acceptable in his class and express your opinions to her.

[Jmom1010]

I plan on talking to her tomorrow, as I will not be seeing her today. And I agree boys are spirited, I am just more concerned with the lack of interest in the behavior by the teachers.

[ima062002]

It's normal behavior but not acceptable. I like to call this kind of behavior age appropriate, but inappropriate and the adult caretaker needs to step in. Since it is age appropriate nobody should expect an immediate change but setting limits and show them that it's not what people should do is a must. That is part of our job, to give them cues as to what kind of social behavior is desired and which not.