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3girls2luv
12-10-2008, 02:32 PM
She had a bad day at school yesterday and she came home demanding to be brought back to her old school. She literally threw a tantrum over it and told me "I hate you , you are a horrible mother!" I told her we are not going to argue about this subject any more. I am not going to move her back to her old school and she told me "you better before something terrible happens!!!!"

Well she went to her room and I kept dd2 out of there to give her some privacy. We went to a family function at our church and she sat with some of her freinds from church and when we got home she yelled some more and cried until she threw up. We start counseling tomorrow and I told her how much I loved her and that I want to help her get through this (advice that I learned from posting here) and I also agreed that it "sucked" not having friends and then I told her to look at the bright side.... "you don't have to spend you money buying christmas gifts for friends." She laughed and then gave me a hug.

I think I am beginning to see a light at the end of the tunnel with her because you all have given me really good advice on how to handle her and this situation. I no longer get upset when she does, I just tell her that I understand and that I will *help* her get through it and it seems to be helping. So thanks to all of you who have been helping me through this, I know I have a long road ahead of me but last night was very different because I handled it a little better.

chinapiggy
12-10-2008, 02:46 PM
It sounds like you are handling it pretty well. I hope counseling helps more. I do not look forward to my children growing.

still_me
12-10-2008, 02:49 PM
I'm glad you feel more in control and that you were able to make her laugh and she hugged you. I'm sure the journey will continue, but good job momma with making some progress!

3girls2luv
12-10-2008, 03:42 PM
It may seem like a small change but having her hug me like that made me feel like she realizes the love is there even though she feels like I am "ruining" her life. If I can get through this then the other two dds will be a breeze (crosses fingers).

Earthmama
12-10-2008, 07:19 PM
crossing my fingers with you.

The hug is a big step - Kudos to you for being able to apply what you learned in an emotionally intense time!

MoonBound
12-10-2008, 08:16 PM
I am so happy for you both!! Hopefully she will make some friends and have a better time at the new school.