MIL vent

[_Viva_]

Well, she's at it again. She always pulls crap when we're planning to go out of town to my parent's house. On Christmas, she made us three hours late leaving to drive down there. (another long story I won't go into, but it pissed me right off.) So we missed most of Christmas day, because of her.

Today, she knew we were leaving around noon to go down and go out to dinner with my parents, and stay the weekend. Saturday is their 50th wedding anniversary party. So, just as we were leaving, she calls DH, crying, and says she's decided to put her dog to sleep. TODAY. (this has been brewing for several weeks, the dog is sick, and I don't doubt that it's best to put her to sleep, and she'd planned to do it next week.) But no, now it has to be today. And the only time the vet can get her in is 4:30 PM. And she needs DH to drive her there, because she's upset.

So, instead of being there in time for dinner (it's a 4 hour drive), we'll get there about 9 PM.

Dammit.

Now, I feel for her about the dog. But this is something that she's been debating for WEEKS. And she'd decided that she was going to do it next week, and Tom had taken the day off to go with her then. This is Christmas Day, all over again.

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I'm sorry.MIL dramas really suck, I know.

[Teresa64]

There must be something in the air that is working up everyones MIL's this week. I am sorry!!!

[MoonBound]

Yep. mine too weird.

[pawprint]

Huh. Mine has been half normal except for picking up my kids 45 minutes late today.

I'm sorry Viva.

[MiMi_of_4]

I'm so sorry, Viva. What a crappy position to put you in. Hopefully, you'll all be out of there soon.

Have a WONDERFUL TIME at your parents party. I know how truly special this one is in light of your Pop's recent scare. I don't know them, but please let them know one of your friends thinks of them often and wishes them many more years of love.

[QuiltyConscience]

Sorry, Viva. I Have a grandmother who regularly pulls stunts and gets mad if family members go to see the other side of the family. She just can't stand that my parents go to see my mom's family, and gets really jealous and pissy about it.

[Monkeytoes]

Sorry Viva, hopefully you have a great time with your parents!

[ColleenF30]

Oh you make me happy that my in laws are 5 hours away! I am sorry you have to put up with it. My in laws from my late hubby live close, but we don't associate much.

[vulturemom]

I think I would be more mad at DH then his Mom.

[RaisingThemLeft]

I'm with vulturemom. Does your dh ever tell his mother no? She's being controlling and he's allowing it.

[nikkifaith]

She sounds like a miserable person. I'm sorry, Gayla.

[Bellaelle]

She sounds like a miserable person. I'm sorry, Gayla.


Yep. Try to enjoy this weekend with your parents.
(((hugs)))

[_Viva_]

Yes, she can be a very miserable person. She can also be a very wonderful person, which is why I put up with days like this. It pisses me off immensely, so I vent here and then get over it.

And I know that the holidays are very tough on her. And I know that she's having a very hard time knowing that my parents are having this party. (She was invited, chose not to go.) Her DH died just a month or two shy of their 50th, and so this is really hitting her hard. And I understand that. And that's why I vent here, and not IRL.

She can be a real piece of work at times, but she can also be a wonderful person. I just get very frustrated with her at times like this, and they get more and more frequent during the holidays and b-days, anniversaries.

I do love her, really I do, again, this is why I vent here and not IRL.

Thanks for the ear, guys.

[nikkifaith]

Just to clarify, I didn't mean miserable as in she is horrible, but someone so unhappy with their life they try and bring others to their level of misery. Being jealous and sad can make even the best of people do stupid and selfish things.

I think with what extra you have shared, your husband sounds sensitive and like a good son. I think you made a wise choice in just venting here. Try and have a good weekend with your family.

[_Viva_]

Just to clarify, I didn't mean miserable as in she is horrible, but someone so unhappy with their life they try and bring others to their level of misery. Being jealous and sad can make even the best of people do stupid and selfish things.

I think with what extra you have shared, your husband sounds sensitive and like a good son. I think you made a wise choice in just venting here. Try and have a good weekend with your family.
I know you meant it that way, that's why I elaborated on why she does the things she does, I think you are right. And that's why I don't make the waves IRL that I want to scream and yell. I vent elsewhere and try to make nice with her.

She really is a wonderful Grandmother to my children, and can also be very kind to me. She has her moments, and I do love her very much, I just know that at times she pushes the limits of my patience.

She really is an amazing woman. She was born and raised in Poland during WWII. Her father died in a concentration camp, she lost her mother in the war and was raised in various relatives homes. She's been through an incredible amount in her lifetime, and I respect that.

But there are times I just want to strangle her. So instead of doing that, I vent here.

Again, thanks guys.

[VegasLactivist]

((((((((((((((((((((((((((Gayla))))))))))))))))))) )))