painful sex

[itsmehere]

I have a 11 month old baby and I am still breastfeeding. We tried sex after 3 months of his birth and it was extremely painful. I had read that reastfeeding makes your vagina dry & all, so thought that could be it. We waited for some more time & tried with KY jelly & it was still painful. The pain is somewhere inside the vagina & happens when try to get in, after that there is a burning sensation for sometime. Otherwise everything is normal, no itching, burning, etc.

I went to my obgyn who told me everything was fine & it is just reastfeeding. I am too embarrased to ask this question, but do all have this issue or its just me, should I take a second opinion with another obgyn?

[Jmom1010]

Have you tried other lubes? I find that KY can sting me after a while. Did you have a vaginal birth? Does the pain ease up and turn to burning after entry? I have a real tight spot pretty low and once my husband pushes past that I find that I am OK. I was looking forward to a vaginal birth for a bit of stretching out since I've always been tight in that place but I ended up with a C Section so no relief for childbirth.

[bfmomworries]

I had heard about the vaginal drying after birth, but always figured it was for vaginal births. I had a c-section, so imagine my surprise when it was like sandpaper down there! I wanted to scream!

It's only just now getting bearable again after 7 months, still breastfeeding, but it isn't as painful as it was.

[itsmehere]

Forgot to mention, I had a vaginal delivery. My doctor did an episiotomy on me and I had a 3rd degree tear. I had bad hemorroids for about 3 months after delivery due to strenous pushing, but now thats kinda ok.

The pain doesn't ease after entry, it stays there & I beared it for 3-4 times thinking it will go away, but now we stop it there itself as its really unbearable. I will try some other jelly too.

[Jmom1010]

I hope different jelly works for you.

[BrandiJR]

One good product is Pure Romance Just Like Me. It is a waterbased lube and it works with your body.

Another reason could be because you have not had it often...it could be like having sex as a virgin!

My baby is 5 1/2 months and we have had sex MAYBE 5 times...and it hurts every time. And I had a c/s. I am bfing also.

[nursingmotherof2]

sometimes when me and my husband have sex it burns to,do you have to use the bathroom when you do have sex? my baby is 7 months and when me and my husband have sex with my leg up that`s when it burns me but not to bad. iam also breastfeeding my baby to i started at birth. the lube might burn you if you have a tear that bad so it might take some time to heal the doctors say it take a year to heal.the water based is really good or you can try sensitive lube to.

[itsmehere]

thanks guys...will try other products too and hope that it gets better.

[Silly]

I had the same problem. I got an episiotomy with my first and ended up with stitches. I was having pain with six for at least 2 years after having my baby.

I joke around about the doctor sewing my up to tight. Never know but she could have sutured you up to far. Good luck! :hug:

[kohlby]

I had c-sections and had that problem both times around - and expect to have it this time around too. After the first time, I had my dr take a look at my appt when DS was about 13 months. She said the vaginal wall was paper thin and likely tearing when we attempted sex. What would happen with me is that it would hurt too much to have intercouse at all. We would try and then have to stop. Then it would burn to pee right after the attempt due to the tearing. I did try all sorts of lubes and nothing helped. My OB prescribed Premarin, which is an estrogen cream. I read the risks and decided it wasn't worth it for such a temporary problem. I was not about to successfully have intercourse until my first child was 18 months old. It was 16 months with my second. You may decide that using premarin is right for you. Definately research it first. If you don't use it and your problem is caused from breastfeeding, then the problem will fix itself. I got my first post-partum period when my son was 18 months old and when my daughter was 16 months old. So, the connection for me was that sex was no longer painful once fertility came back. However, MOST women can find a lube that works. My situation is not common at all - but it does happen and it did fix itself.

[Jacksmommy]

For me sex was painful for a long time. KY and astroglide helped, but it still hurt. What helped was just time to heal and a husband who was pretty patient about not having sex very often for quite a while.