Boys will be boys

[MrsKitty]

I have been given alot of guff over letting my son have long hair, the fact I paint his nails if he asks, or over him having a toy kitchen and dolls. Especially the time he wanted a dress and I "actually allowed him" to wear one.

So I saw my son sitting at the kitchen table playing with two really frufru dolls that were mine when I was his age. I snuck up behind him and heard him make the dolls have the following conversation

"I will kill you!"
"No you won't cuse, im gonna cut your neck with my sword"

Wellllll there you go. Clearly I have not turned him into a girl with my gender neutral parenting styles.

Though I can't say I was any better with my barbies. I dressed them up trampy and made them have sex.

[babymakes4]

lol. Owen has hair down to his shoulders.mostly because I would have to sit on him to cut it. And, he has a facination with baby dolls and diapers right now, I think because of the new baby in the house. He still LOVES his cars and GI joes....LOL.

Boys are strange little creatures. :)

[CatSoup]

You made me lol MrsKitty!

[Teresa64]

My son wore dresses at that age. He also painted his nails, put on make-up and played with dolls. Its all good!

[jacksonsmommy]

My son used to love to dress up as a disney princess with his sister. My Dad hated it. Now he is 5 and he will wear only camo every day!!!!

[MiMi_of_4]

lmao, Kitty!

[Babyblue]

dh does not like ds to play with dn's my little ponys. I however do not care and let ds have them. he lines them up in a row and use's a toy shovel and tee's them off like golfballs.

[Sputterduck]

dh does not like ds to play with dn's my little ponys. I however do not care and let ds have them. he lines them up in a row and use's a toy shovel and tee's them off like golfballs.


lol

[Babyhellfire]

LOL I did the same thing with my barbies..


I would like to tell you it is a boy thing and my sweet little angel girl never makes her toys say vile things...
but I have heard worse even from my daughters Littlest Pet shop toys- and often the dino toys invade the LPS village, much carnage. :o

... but then she went through a phase of wearing boy clothes and boy toys, and I encouraged it. (she went into pink and skirts only phase at three, and only now that she is almost 4 is starting to find a balance between the two LOL) .

I think it is almost easier with girls, as far as all that. People don't seem to judge as much a girl who plays with boy toys, or wears boyish clothes, as they do a boy. I know my parenting style irt letting dd be herself would not be accepted as well if dd had been ds.
IOW, kitty, I think you are being a great mommy , teaching your son it is ok to like whatever he likes despite pressures for him to act a certain way because of his gender:hugegrin:

[KatieLou]

LOL Mrs Kitty!

My brother and I used to have my barbie dolls and his TMN Turtles make out. Then one day I caught him in my room kissing all over one of my barbies, he was like, 7!

DS loves to play with DD's dolls. It bugged the snot out of DH at first. He also says his fav color is "pink" because that is what Lilly always says.

DH has come along way from "No boy of mine will play with a doll" to me coming home after a gals night out to find both DD, DH, and DS dressed up as princesses (well DH was the Queen) Hey when big Sis gets to dress up all the time, Brody just wants to join in!

[still_me]

LOL at everyone's stories. I love when kids can be who they are and parents are patient and understanding enough to let them do what they need to do.

DS2 was carrying around a baby doll the other day and being really sweet with it. He even asked it if it needed "boob". So, DH looks at me and we start giggling and then DS2 walks over to the wall and yells, "Panna karate HIIIIIIYA!" and slams the doll into a wall. Niiiiice....

[KatieLou]

Totally LOL on that Still me!

[still_me]

Totally LOL on that Still me!


That damn Kung Fu Panda movie will be the end for me one day. lol Both boys do karate moves around the house because of it. I even caught DS1 trying to talk DS2 into running into his belly so he could bump him off. A double head collision would be more accurate with that move though.

I love that your DH dressed up as a Princess Katielou. Little girls and their magic powers over tough daddy's is priceless.

[MrsKitty]

Oh god ... Kung Fu Panda. If I had known that my mother in law was going to show him that....

It is now his favorite movie. I am also not into buying branded stuff. I have gotten him the Yo Gabba Gabba action figures, but thats about it. Courtesy of relatives, he now has a whole bin of Kung Fu Panda merchandise. He has watched the movie probably over 60 times in the past few months. He just likes it on in the background.

So ... "Can you please close the cupboard?" turns into him making a serious Kung Fu stance, staring at the cupboard, and then lunging forward with a loud HIYAHHH as he slams it with a fierce look in his eyes.

I told him he could take kung fu lessons if he used the potty, because they don't let boys in diapers take kung fu. He told me a real kung fu master wouldnt care if he wore diapers. *long sigh*

[MoonBound]

dh is pretty good about it he didn't really bat an eye at me buying ds2 his own doll. he did worry about the stamp set I got for ds1, it was super girl marketed. they did not have a set marketed for boys and most of the stamps themselves where not. Ds1 liked and toll me he understood. he does not like nail polish but he doesn't like it on the girls either it's a grown up thing not a gender thing.

ds1 asked me to paint his room in a mermaid theme. I don't have a clue how to paint a mermaid themed room for a ten year old boy - a 16yo sure - but ten and not have the boys he plays with pick on him?

ds2 wants to be a girl when he grows up.

[NewMum]

I told him he could take kung fu lessons if he used the potty, because they don't let boys in diapers take kung fu. He told me a real kung fu master wouldnt care if he wore diapers. *long sigh*


Wouldn't that make him a Kung Poo Master? Harharhar.

On a serious note, I let DS play with whatever he wants. He loved that little cooing baby doll (the one that was in the news) and every time we went to the store, he'd whine and talk to it. Finally, my mom and I got it for him for his B-day. DH wasn't overly thrilled, but he got over it. And DS still loves that thing. He carries it around and gives it kisses all the time. And then he tosses it across the room... oh well. LOL

[JudyJudyJudy]

That is too funny!

[Sadalsuud]

This thread is hilarious.

I don't have any sons, but I do have a funny story about dh and my younger dd. My dh used to just freak just thinking about having the girls put makeup on him or him dressing girly or anything until dd2 managed to paint his toenails iridescent purple one evening while he was watching tv. I have no idea how he didn't see her between him and the t.v. painting his nails. It wasn't until she said, "Look Daddy! You are a princess!" and pointed to his toes that he noticed.

[EvilAmy]

Xander called me over to the Barbie house the other day to see his cool thing. He had his sister's Barbies doing Jackie Chan style stunts. He said that were "action women". He also had them kicking the crap out of his army men.

With Justin I ruined all of Grandma's fun of trying to tease me. He would come home from visits with his nails painted, she'd call "So, how do you like his nails?"
"Next time go with blood red he thinks it gives him Vampire fingers."

Yep that sucked the fun out of it for her, DH and I didn't care if his nails were apinted however BIL and SIL would throw tizzy fits when theirs came home that way.

[MiMi_of_4]

I love these stories!

[pawprint]

I have two sons. While we have a dollhouse, an easy bake oven, a kitchen, and a slew of dolls, my youngest is the one who does more traditionally girly things. He has a leather 'man bag' he often totes around, paints his nails, loves pink, and dances ballet. Yet he is much more masculine than ds1. He's more masculine than DH! Lol. He''s got swagger even for a five year old and is constantly balancing his load of 'girlfriends'. He just knows he's cool. If I could bottle the confidence he has I could be a billionaire. I envy his confidence.

He started a new dance school last night and the dance teacher was so thrilled to have a boy. They've had boys, but they've been tortured by their friends and quit. I told them not to worry. By the time someone makes fun of ds2 he'll reply with "Dude, I've danced with more girls this week than you will in your lifetime". ;)

[MoonBound]

My ds1 is the only boy at is riding school, all the others (2) left. Why are horses a girl thing? He could care less as long as he gets to be with the horses I don't think he much notices the other humans there.

[pawprint]

I don't think of horses as a girl thing. Huh.

Last night this gorgeous little girl looked at ds and then at her mom and said "Boys can dance?" and he mom told her yes. I was on the floor putting ds's shoes on and I leaned over to her and told her "When all of you little ballerinas get big you need a boy to pick you up and spin you around and do those fancy ballet moves!" She grinned and said "Oh yeah!" Lol.

FWIW moonbound, ds hasn't noticed he's the only boy yet either, or at least hasn't cared. He's been dancing two years.

Aren't all the jockeys male? WTH?

[kohlby]

I have the stereotypical boy's boy. I used to think that nature vs nurture was about both with gender identity - nope! It's totally nature with my son! My kids like many of the same toys but I've noticed they play with them in VERY different ways.

My daughter makes soups with the play kitchen. My son makes poison food.

My daughter puts on puppet shows about being best friends. My son puts on puppet shows about attacking and eating each other. (Most our puppets are animals).

My daughter plays with her doll house having them do the normal daily things. My son makes a remote control car attack the house and knock over everyone and all the furniture.

My daughter plays with a toy castle and the princess flies around making flowers appear with her magic wand. My son makes a dragon attack the castle and uses the magic wand to turn everyone into flies - and then turns himself into a frog to eat the flies.

I did get my son a baby doll when he was two. But he's never played with dolls nor stuffed animals. I'm sure if he did, they would be attacking each other.

Both are affectionate kids though - DS is more touchy feely than DD. DS gets upset if DH gets any more goodnight kisses than he does. You should have seen DS's face when I told him that DH gets a kisses when DS is asleep as well! DS is always ready with a hug and kiss - to the point that we had to teach him that it's not appropriate to hug people you don't know when it's time to leave the park. DD usually skips the goodnight kisses to us, well, except for my belly and all her dolls and stuffed animals.

[3girls2luv]

These are really cute stories.

I have three girls and none of them like to play dolls. I used to play dolls all the time up until I was 11yrs old so when I had girls I bought them all kinds of dolls with doll clothes and carriers but they never played with them. DD3 has a remote control Jeep that we got her for her B-day and MIL got her a baby alive doll and she puts the doll in the Jeep and gives her a ride so I guess this is as close to doll playing that she will get. DD1 used to watch that movie Twister all the time so she would line up her dolls in front of the fan and throw her stuffed animals at them yelling "we've got debri!"

[MoonBound]

Most jockeys are male. It's English style and that may have something to do with it, but I read a ot about how you should do English before Western because it is harder to earn the other way and the school is great so. About 16 weeks into a year and a half of lessons he asked why there where not any other boys, he wasn't upset about it just curious as long as there are horses he doesn't care. He has been asking for a horse and ridding lessons since he was two.

He is taking about becoming a vet and working as a horse rescue vet. I know it's too early to pick really but I am excited about that choice. He is very well suited to it loves animals, math, and science and animals seem to trust him. I think he would be happy doing it.

[RedMamaBear]

My DD was attacking the couch the other morning with her brightly coloured short sword, shouting " Death to Tyrants! ".

I'm so proud!

:hugegrin:

[Babyblue]

being a jockey requires a tremendous amount of strength, upper and lower body and endurance, combined with the fact that you cant weight more then 100- 115 pounds. it makes it much harder for a female to be small yet strong enough. also there is a good bit of sexism that plays into it. although it is very common to see women as exercise riders and grooms at racetracks.

I don't know why it sometimes seems like there are more girls/women attracted to horseback ridding then boys/men. Both my parents rode and dh learned enough to be comfortable working with the horses we have at home. I have seen though, the earlier that a child starts ridding the more skilled and proficient they seem to be as adults. My sisters and I started as children, and are a 100 times better riders then our parents who started in their 30s.