Do you go to bed at the same time as your partner?

[Crabbie]

huh huh huh?




Generally we don't. More often than not one of us has fallen asleep on the couch watching tv. We are truly an old married couple. ;) Also, if he has gone to bed before me I'll opt for the couch over the snoring.

[Monkeytoes]

Nope, never. I go to bed when he is getting up in the morning. lol

[Crabbie]

What are you a vampire or something? ;)

[dalurker]

Very rarely. We used to a long time ago, but our sleep patterns are so different. He goes to bed between 9 and 10 pm and is asleep within minutes of his head hitting the pillow. There's no way I can go to sleep that early and even if I did, I'd be awake again during the night. For the first several years, we went to bed together because it seemed so important and traditional and junk, but I got over that.

[Crabbie]

My husband can also fall asleep within minutes of his head hitting the pillow. Then he falls into an insane snore.

[Monkeytoes]

What are you a vampire or something? ;)

Maybe....

[MoonBound]

If I want to talk or something yes if the kiddo allow. By nature no. I am a night owl he never needed sleep that changed when we got married, like immediately. I think the ring sucks sleep from him. I do go to bed though, I have a hard time falling asleep (at night, naps are no problem) without his snoring.

[MoonBound]

Mine does that head+pillow=asleep thing too. I've woke him to ask how he does it. He was less than pleased with me. Even tired it takes me about an hour to fall asleep.

[Monkeytoes]

Same here, I have the husband that can fall asleep standing up and can sleep through a heard of elephants crashing through the house. Me on the other hand, I stare at the ceiling for hours and hear every little noise.

[Crabbie]

Too bad we aren't closer MT, we could go play while the husbands sleep.

[Bellaelle]

not really.

[Monkeytoes]

Too bad we aren't closer MT, we could go play while the husbands sleep.

I know right.. Why oh why did I move all the way to Indiana.. "wait1"

[Sadalsuud]

No. I don't sleep very well at all. More often than not, I'll end up staying awake through the night and catch a few hours sleep after I get dd1 on the bus as 6:30.

Dh is one of those who falls asleep within minutes of laying down.

[Crabbie]

I wish I could sleep during the day. Darned work, it get's in the way all the time. sigh. ;)

[tata]

Not always, but frequently. We are both night owls struggling to accommodate the schedule of early-rising children. Often times, we take turns staying up late, when it's quiet and we can do the things we like to do (read, watch the DVR or movies, goof off online, etc.) without interruption. Sometimes, we both stay up. Sometimes, we both crash early.

[Peeka2]

Dh likes to fall asleep with the tv on. I need total silence and total darkness.

Thats me. dh likes the fan and since I am trying to be nice I haven't made it disappear yet this winter. He sleeps later then I do so I know the fan helps drown out the kids screaming during the day.

But if he goes to get first he turns it on and sometimes I will just sleep on the couch to avoid the noise of the fan. If I go to bed first he leaves it off.

[CiCi04]

99% of the time, we go together. he falls asleep quickly & I'll quietly watch tv or do crosswords on the DS.

1% of the time DH goes 1st...usually because he's grumpy and that usually makes me happy!

[still_me]

We head up to bed together.

In the winter time DH falls asleep pretty early. He works outside in the cold on and off and usually is exhausted. On nights like those he passes out snuggling on the couch with me or in his chair. I stay up and read or watch tv.

We head straight up to bed together in the summer time because on the hottest of days we turn the AC on in our room.

[HammBugga]

No. I go to sleep much earlier usually. I hate sharing a bed. Mostly because DS2 is still in bed with us and I he and dh take over them bed leaving me with just a tiny spot to lay uncomfortably in. When it is just DS and I, I am much more comfortable. I wish my bed was twice as big!@

[NazirsMom]

sometimes yes, sometimes no. it depends


Same here, I have the husband that can fall asleep standing up and can sleep through a heard of elephants crashing through the house. Me on the other hand, I stare at the ceiling for hours and hear every little noise.

oh my gosh yes! lol

[HammBugga]

My husband has been known to sleep through anything as well. It annoys the shit out of my sleep deprived self.

[MMof5]

We go to bed at the same time. He usually falls asleep first. He puts in many 17 hour days. I lie there and watch TV or read a book. I have a lot of evening anxiety and that makes it hard for me to fall asleep.

What annoys me (no fault of his own, so I'm not putting him down, necessarily) is when dh hears a mouse. He wakes out of a sound sleep because he heard a mouse. Every little sound after that makes him jump, which scares me right out of my skin. It's MUCH worse when he thinks there is one in the bed (which has happened).

[Nipple_nectar]

We go together always. We both sleep like rocks and have no trouble, falling asleep immediately! We both tick tack on our laptops for a few hours, to unwind, while the girls settle in their bedtime routine.

Most of the time, we turn the lights out and everyone goes to sleep at once. The five year old WILL NOT GO until we turn all our stuff off and make it pitch black.

[cream_city]

We always used to, but when I was pregnant we started going to bed at different times. I was tired so much earlier than I used to be. Now with the new baby, he tends to still stay up later and I go to bed earlier in order to get as much sleep as I can.

[pawprint]

Very rarely. We used to a long time ago, but our sleep patterns are so different. He goes to bed between 9 and 10 pm and is asleep within minutes of his head hitting the pillow. There's no way I can go to sleep that early and even if I did, I'd be awake again during the night. For the first several years, we went to bed together because it seemed so important and traditional and junk, but I got over that.


THis exactly.

[JudyJudyJudy]

Not even close to the same time usually.

[Iconoclast]

If he is at home at bedtime. I stopped witig up 18 years ago.

[Babyhellfire]

No.
We have,and it is nice to- but most often no, Our schedule just doesn't usually line up.
I don't even know a % to give ya it is pretty random.

[SarahFae]

Nope, never. I go to bed when he is getting up in the morning. lol

The opposite here. He works the 6pm to 6am shift and I work anytime during the day between 9am and midnight. I go to bed usually about 10pm if I'm not closing and he goes to bed at about 7am.

[tabatha]

Not very often, were both night owls as well but he's even a later one then me. He even gets up before me.

[Bohemian]

Occasionally. Usually though I got to bed around 10 or 11 and he a couple hours later.

[JustMoi]

Yes, we do.

[JulieBaby]

We are still in the 'honeymoon' phase (1yr on V-day) and always go to bed together.

If I am lucky enough to fall asleep before him I stay in bed. If he starts snoing before I can fall asleep i'll go into the living room for a bit then come back to bed.

[Tulip]

DH is a night owl and can function well on 6 hours of sleep. I need more, so I go to sleep earlier.

[billysmom]

THis exactly.

Same here. It's very rare that I will go to bed before midnight, let alone at the same time as DH. A lot of the time, I'll go in and chit chat with him for a few minutes to reconnect, and then I'll leave and go about my night.

[BoobySnacks]

Not really, maybe sometimes. We usually are in bed within a few minutes to an hour on a weekday. On a weekend, sometimes together and sometimes I will stay up a couple hours later than him and visa versa...it just depends. He also snores most nights, but it usually starts happening a couple of hours after he has already been asleep, so I try to get into bed within an hour of him so that I can get to sleep before the snoring starts so that I have time to fall asleep before then.

[SueDid]

We go to bed at the same time most nights. We didn't used to as much, I'm a night owl and my "me" time was after the kids were in bed. With my husband having two jobs now, we start to feel really disconnected when we don't go to bed at the same time since we have less time together during awake hours. He doesn't get home until just after 11:00pm.

He falls asleep pretty quickly most nights, I watch TV for a bit. I have to feel REALLY tired to turn it off and be able to sleep.

The exceptions are when he has really early jobs and goes to bed at 8:30 - 9:00. The kids are still up then and I couldn't possibly sleep that early. Sometimes I'll take advantage of him having to go to bed early and have a night owl night and I'll quilt until the wee hours.

[Rizzae2]

yes, even if it means i have to stay up later. i cant sleep unless he's next to me. well except for while he is over seas, but if hes in same house i cant unless hes next to me. i will wait for him. and if im tired i will nap on couch till hes ready to go to bed.

my ex and i.. slept in separate rooms. and i didnt care

[Carolina]

Most of the time.