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_Viva_
02-08-2009, 01:13 PM
Well, Pop is back home. He had surgery, a carotid endarterectomy (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carotid_endarterectomy) on Friday. I have been a basket case, and haven't posted about it because it's been eating me up inside. But now that it's all over, I can breathe again, and try to get some of this out.

Well, of course the backstory, he had the stroke on Thanksgiving. I got myself involved that day by insisting that he get the controversial clot-busting drug tPA, which luckily worked very well, and they sent him home, and he'd been doing really well. They did a CTA (contrast cat scan of the neck) while he was in the hospital and found what they'd decided was a 60% blockage of his left carotid artery. So, they decided that they would just release him and "watch him".

Well, something in my gut kept gnawing at me. It didn't feel right. He'd had a stroke, even tho the tPA worked and he was OK, I just had this impending feeling of doom that he was going to have another.

So the next week, when I went back to work, I happened to be working in Cardiac Recovery. Dr C, one of the top vascular docs around, was rounding on his patients. Now, every nurse in our hospital knows that there are some docs that are 'approachable' and some that aren't. Dr C is on the "aren't" list, LOL! He's known for being very short, even snippy with the nurses. But, he's damn good, and unbelieveably smart. So, much to the amazement of the girls I was working with, I stopped him in the nurse's station and said, "Dr C, do you have a minute to talk to me. I'd really like to pick your brain about something, please."

Well, he looked at me like I was nuts. The nurses thought I'd lost my mind. But, to my pleasant surprise, curiosity got the better of him, and he motioned for us to sit down. I told him about Pop, about the stroke, his 60% blockage and my 'gut'. He said, yeah, for most people, a blockage of less than 70%, it's not really worth the risk of surgery to go messing with the carotid, but yeah, in my dad's case, something just didn't add up. Then he gave me the back number to his office and told me to call his assistant personally and schedule my dad for a consult.

Then I had to call my dad. I explained to dad, that even tho they said that 60% was not something he needed to really worry that much about, I really wanted him to come up and talk to Dr C. I also said that I wanted his to see Dr A, a heme doc, to evaluate wheter his Factor V Leiden had anything to do with the stroke, or if he had any other clotting issues. He said that my gut was right about the tPA, so he'd come up and talk to anybody I wanted him to. They live four hours away, so it wasn't a small thing to arrange, as mom then had to drive him up for all these appts that I had him running to.

Well, After the consults, Dr C said he was really wondering about that carotid, too, and wanted dad to get another angiogram, this one an invasive, in depth one, in the actual cath lab. So that was scheduled for the Monday before last.

Well, turns out, the blockage wan't 60%. Huh. It was only 40%. Which, when Dr C told me, I couldn't understand the grave look on his face. That's good, no? No. Even tho the blockage was less PERCENTAGEWISE, apparantly the better views afforded by the more indepth angiogram showed that it was a very dangerous blockage. The plaque was extremely ulcerated, macerated, and at a bifurcation. It was "the consistency of wet cat food." Dr C said that he could tell me, with 100% certainty, that this is what caused dad's stroke, and he could tell me, in all likelyhood, dad would stroke again, and it wouldn't be minor. Then he looked at Pop, and told him that he recommended surgery, and asked Dad if he would be OK with going thru with the surgery.

Dad looked at Dr C, looked at me, and said, "I trust her with my life. Whatever she thinks is the right thing to do, I'll do it."

I have never been so scared. I had to make the decision to send my dad to surgery. On a 40% lesion. Even Dr C said, that if someone told him they were operating on a 40% lesion, he'd think they were nuts. But "it is what it is, and it's a dangerous lesion". So I told dad I thought he should have the surgery.

Dr C said he could get him in the following Friday. (two days ago). I spent those 12 days worried out of my mind. Was I making the right choice? I knew, if something went wrong, it would be on my heart that I sent dad into it. I was incredibly honored and humbled that dad trusted me so greatly, and was terrified that I wasn't worthy of that trust, and that I would make the wrong choice.

Well, he had the surgery two days ago. Dr C brought me in to show me the plaque he'd taken out. I cried when I saw it. Yeah, we did the right thing. It was even worse than they thought from the angiogram. It was all loose, yeah, like 'wet cat food'. Just waiting to break apart. The anesthesiologist told me it was 'damn near a miracle' that dad hadn't had another stroke and died in the last few months. Honestly, I can hardly believe it myself. It was nasty looking.

So, dad is now home, recovering from surgery. My gut was right, and I can breathe again. I shudder to think about the "what if's." And I'm very thankful for all the prayers that you all have provided.

nikkifaith
02-08-2009, 01:19 PM
Gayla, I am so happy for you. I teared up a bit reading that. I am so glad you listen to your intuition.

Monkeytoes
02-08-2009, 02:24 PM
Gayla, you are such a strong person. Your dad is a lucky guy to have such a sweet caring daughter as yourself!

I hope he heals up fast and is back on his feet soon!

_MrsC_
02-08-2009, 02:26 PM
Wow. I'm glad your dad is home and that he had you to help him.

Tweet
02-08-2009, 03:42 PM
Wow, honey..you've all been through so much. Good on you for listening to those instincts and talking to that Dr C. I'd have been terrified, too. I'm so glad it's out. Hugs.

Peeka2
02-08-2009, 06:34 PM
I am glad he is doing better! Good job listening to your intuition!!!

_Viva_
02-08-2009, 07:04 PM
This is the kind of guy my dad is.

A while back, a local park was getting all new equipment. Pop found out about it, and tracked down the guy responsible for disposing of the old equipment. He made arrangements to purchase it and had it brought to the farm for the grandkids to play on. So now the kids have teeter totters, a full size merry go round, and big swings to play on at the farm. He is a professional Grandpa.

Once, when a guy here got sick with cancer, Dad went out and planted all his fields so that he'd have crops when his chemo was over. Nobody asked him. He just did it. This was on top of planting his own fields and working 60 hours a week in a coal mine.

He worked in a coal mine until he finally retired at the age of 70, just two years ago. He's been thru 8 surgeries for differing degrees of colon cancer, and has never lost his smile.

When we were kids, he was ALWAYS fixing my friends' cars. When he couldn't find parts, he 'made' them up. I swear he kept my one friends car running on coat hangers and duct tape.

The man can fix ANYTHING we managed to break. Our bikes, our cars, our hearts. His education stopped at high school, yet he is one of the smartest people I know. And, tho I've never SEEN him walk on water, I have no doubts that he could.

I love my dad. I cannot express how much.

MiMi_of_4
02-08-2009, 07:22 PM
I'm smiling :)

nikkifaith
02-08-2009, 08:06 PM
I loved my grandpa like that, viva. Your description of him made me smile, too.

Bellaelle
02-08-2009, 09:00 PM
I am so glad you went with your instinct. I pray he will get better.
I know how much he means to you. (((Gayla)))

_Viva_
02-10-2009, 10:23 PM
Bump for the weekday folks.

JudyJudyJudy
02-11-2009, 12:49 AM
That's such a happy story, Gayla. I'm so glad things went well.

jessiehannan
02-12-2009, 12:44 PM
I am glad you went with your instinct. You are so lucky to have a dad that great!

Crabbie
02-12-2009, 04:35 PM
I'm glad he is improving!

_Viva_
02-12-2009, 07:38 PM
This is on his wedding day to my mom, FIFTY years ago.

http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b3/gdsliwa/112.jpg

This is with all the Grandkids, this past October
http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b3/gdsliwa/023.jpg

still_me
02-12-2009, 07:49 PM
So sweet!

JudyJudyJudy
02-12-2009, 08:11 PM
Awwwwww.

HammBugga
02-12-2009, 08:20 PM
Your Dad sounds like a wonderful man and he certainly raised a wonderful daughter!