WWYD? kid trouble

[jessiehannan]

A girl on DD's bus has been giving DD all of the work and papers from school that she is supposed to be giving to her parents, so that she won't get in trouble with her parents. (It's pretty bad, I thought it was DD's work until I saw the name at the top. DD wouldn't have been able to go to her grandparents house this weekend if it was hers)
Do I call the school and tell them? Make DD give it back to the girl?

[MiMi_of_4]

I'd give your daughter's teacher a call and give her a heads up. IMHO, she/he needs to be aware of the situation; that way it can be dealt with at school and you won't be stuck in the middle.

[jessiehannan]

I'd give your daughter's teacher a call and give her a heads up. IMHO, she/he needs to be aware of the situation; that way it can be dealt with at school and you won't be stuck in the middle.

MiMi, would the prinicpal work if the other child isn't in DD's class?

[JudyJudyJudy]

If they're not in class together, I'd contact the counselor.

[jessiehannan]

Thanks.
I feel bad for the little girl, her parents are going to get her report card and ask, "Why are you failing?!"

[JudyJudyJudy]

I feel bad for her teacher since the parents will likely scream, "Why didn't you let us know that our daughter is failing?!"

It's always the teacher's fault. ;)

[jessiehannan]

I feel bad for her teacher since the parents will likely scream, "Why didn't you let us know that our daughter is failing?!"

It's always the teacher's fault. ;)

I try not to blame the teacher. I like to ask what is going on first.
I know teachers don't get paid nearly enough to have to put up with irate parents. :)

[Amy_G_]

I'd have my daughter give the papers back and explain that she shouldn't take someone else's papers home and tell her why.
then I'd give my child's teacher a heads up and ask if she wants to talk to the other child's teacher or if you should. go from there.

[MiMi_of_4]

I agree with everything Judy has posted.

[tata]

I feel bad for her teacher since the parents will likely scream, "Why didn't you let us know that our daughter is failing?!"

It's always the teacher's fault. ;)

I have never understood why parents blame teachers for shit. It really makes me mad - teachers don't sign up to be teachers for the money, asshole! Parents and teachers are supposed to be working together, 'cause IMO they both want (or at least SHOULD want) what's best for the kid.

"rant"

[jessiehannan]

I'd take it to the other kid's teacher and explain the situation.

I don't know whose class she is in. All I have is her name off her papers.I think I will follow Judy's suggestion and call the counselor, it is what I would be comfortable with, were I the girl's parents.

[MiMi_of_4]

Judy's suggestion is what I would follow, too, jessie (in case you didn't see that I had agreed with her upthread).

[jessiehannan]

Hah, I didn't see that MiMi. Thanks every one for their input.

[SueDid]

If the girls aren't in the same class, the counselor sounds like a good person to inform and s/he can take it from there.

I would also tell my daughter that she shouldn't be allowing this girl to use her in this way. She could be setting a precendent for herself that will be very hard to change and could get her in a lot of trouble as well.