Things you have learned about yourself.

[still_me]

I have learned three things about myself today:

1) Exercise is no longer an option. It is necessary for my mental health

2) I am sexist when it will benefit me. As of right now, we have a deranged raccoon in the dog house. I, being a delicate women, cannot bring the dog outside to go potty. I actually thought, "He is the man. It is his duty to do it. Plus, he can run faster than me".

3) I am actually a little freaked out by the lady bug infestation that we are having. They are coming in the house now and I am a bit unnerved.

[Sym]

What is the deal with the ladybugs ? There were a gazillion on one side of our house today.

Ok, I have learned

1. I need to exercise for mental sanity, as well as staying in my jeans !
2. Friends are awesome, old ones, new ones, ones you talk to daily, ones you talk to a few times a year. Call a friend today. Drop an email. Re-connect.
3. I am so glad that I have my kids. I just love them so much, they are awesome kids. I think I am a pretty decent Mom.

[Sputterduck]

1) I have a thing for alpha males.

2) I'm not sure alpha males are good for me.

[RedMamaBear]

1) I'm an alpha female. I'm ok with that. A lot of people, a great deal of them men, are not.

2) My instincts tend to be right on the money.

3) If I want to hit the goals I've set for myself, I really need to stay focused.

4) It's okay to accept compliments.

5) I'm a much better leader than I give myself credit for.

[StillSingingMom]

1.) Some people like me. Go figure.

2.) Some people like to hear me sing. Who'd a thunk it. (My mom was always telling me to stop practicing, piano, singing, whatever. It's a personal hot button for her because of her childhood, but I didn't understand that as a kid. I just figured nobody would want to hear it.)

3.) I wish I could sing and make money and get health benefits singing.

[MMof5]

1. I feel the need to control everything, but nearly everything is out of my control. Both of those bother me.

2. I let a lot of things bother me.

3. I have more fears than I care to admit.

4. I have a lot of will-power when I want to, but find it difficult to stick with anything. My wants change so often that I feel like I'm tossed by every wind.

5. All of the above used to bother me. A lot. But the older I get, the more comfortable I am with my imperfections.

[JudyJudyJudy]

1. Many of the things that I used to think were important really don't mean that much in the end.

2. I'm not as strong as I always thought I was. It's much easier to be strong with good health.

As for ladybugs:

We've had ladybugs in our house every fall and winter since we've lived here, which is 12 years. I would be willing to let them live in peace if I were not allergic to them and if they wouldn't drop dead, thus leaving a mess in my windows and floors.

[boys4us]

1. I can say no when people ask me to do things, and am getting better at it.

2. Even though I have always cared too much what others think, I could have cared less when I was breastfeeding. Hearing "Are you still doing that" or "How long are you going to keep doing that" never bothered me in the least.

3. I'm a pretty good mom and wife.

[Babyblue]

I wrote 5 because I sat down and really thought about things.

1. I am the alpha female. Dh feels the need for him to be the alpha male(even though his personality is defiantly not) and me the submissive female because of his upbringing. It works out badly and if I had known before hand I wouldn’t have married him.

2. I was abused physically and mentally my entire life before I got married and I now have a huge urge to control things in my life. Dh makes all of our income, all the child raising decisions and all the family decisions. He is in no way violent or abusive, but if his opinion is A and my opinion is B unless I show him massive amounts of scientific research proving opinion B is correct opinion A is always what happens. I now have severe anxiety problems and panic attacks which I believe come from stress and loss of control over my life, including loss of control over my fertility- but that no one can control. Dh does not understand the anxiety at all because he is living the lifestyle he was raised and sees nothing wrong.

3. I will curse on occasion, 21 years of constantly being cursed at and if I drop something or break something it just flies out.

4. I am a thousand times the mother of anyone I know, but I will never be as good as I want to be.

5. I am a pretty decent cook and baker, however particular dishes will always escape me. I can never make dhs favorite dishes right if my mil never gives me the proper recipe. Evil cow bag.

[boys4us]

I am a thousand times the mother of anyone I know, but I will never be as good as I want to be.

The last part of your statement is very insightful. I could very easily add that to my statement about being a good wife and mother, just didn't think of it at the time. I remind myself many times how I could have handled such and such better, as I'm guessing many of us do. Thank you for including that in yours!

[ima062002]

1 - I am not nearly as flexible (yet) as I like to be.
2 - I am changing, slowly but surely and turning into the person (mother, partner) I want to be. It takes a lot of soul searching, commitment and work and I hate the process but love the (incremental) results.
3 - I don't operate well under stress. I don't make the best decisions because I get so worked up.

[busy_i_am2007]

1. I have more patience now that I have 8 kids than I did when my first two kids were little.

2. I can cook supper, breastfeed Cassidy, help my kids with homework and talk on the phone at the same time. Multi-tasking is one of my greatest strengths!

3. I can get showered and dressed in 15 minutes or less. (As long as I can get into the bathroom before the kids do, we only have one!)