Need advice

[teenbump]

I'll start from the beginning. I got pregnant with my first baby when I was 15. I worked my butt off going to work full time, and managed to graduate 2 weeks before the baby was born, and about a month after I turned 16. I married the father of my baby shortly after I turned 17, four months ago. We recently told our parents that we are 16 wks pregnant with twins. I didn't think my parents would have a problem with it, I mean, we're married, we're both graduated, and we are giving out daughter, Kianna, a happy life. Much to my surprise they were extremely upset, and set off to tell me about how I was not only ruining my life, but now the lives of my children, and they thought I would have learned from the first time. I've made it clear to my parents that I am not getting an abortion, and that what's done is done, but they still seem to be even more upset the second time.

does anyone have any advice for how I should deal with this?

[ambercat]

I dont have experience with this, but you could try sitting down with them and find out why they think its a mistake, they may just be thinking that one is enough, and yes you are married and graduated but they may have been hoping you'd go to college and b a working mom instead of a stay at home mom with 3 young babies. Just make sure you dont stress to much and tell them that you'd really like their support on your decision. and Congrats on the twins!!! =)

[StillSingingMom]

Congratulations on your babies.

Your parents obviously wanted something different for you. The only thing you can really do for them is ask them about it and listen to them respectfully.

Then you have to do what is right for you and your family. There is many an infertile woman out there wishing she'd had kids when she was younger. You are a grown woman now, no matter how old you are, and you can only show your parents with your life and loving and responsible parenting that, yes, you are ready to handle this.

[torinbaby]

Your parents are just that, your parents. They will always be worried about you and they know that things will be much harder than they were when you only had one child. Just prove them wrong and give them time. They love you and only want what's beat for you just like you want what is best for your daughter.

[joseiha]

congrats to you and your husband on all your babies. i am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason! i believe that you were blessed with these babies and they blessed you as a mommy! but from you parents point of view, you are their baby! and htey just want the best for you. i know (from personal experience) that is hard to execpt that parents are only human and also make mistakes. they may have gone about this in the wrong way but im sure they are only worried about you. My advise: prove to them that you can do it! that you can be a great mom to all 3 of your children! Sit down and talk with them about how much you are happy with what has happened and how much it would mean to you to have their support. but be open minded and understand that they just want the best for you, even if their idea of whats best isnt the same as yours.

[Nina123]

Congratulations! I think they now how hard it has been for you and only want to best for their child as you should understand being a mother. In time they will be very happy when their grand babies arrive but for now I think they are just worried about you.

[mommygirl]

Twins! I had a set just after I turned 20. My mother disowned me when I told her, despite the fact that I was married and had been for two years at the time. It took her a couple hours to come to terms with everything, but she came around. I hope yours do too!

[kimberly_renee18]

You may be a mom, out of school, and married, but your parents are always going to see you as their daughter who is still young. I think they will come around so don't stress out about it and try to be understanding of their feelings too. Congrats on the twins, deary:D I bet it's exciting!

[FranFine]

First of all: Congrats on the twins :hugegrin::hugegrin:
I think that your parents are just worried about you and want you to be happy. But if being a Mommy makes you happy, you need to tell them that this is the way you chose. And I think, one day they'll understand and be happy with you!

[SaraEEKS_]

Honestly, Financially you are ruining your life,
and I'm glad that you aren't getting an abortion.
I am also in the same situation I have a six week old baby,
and I think I'm pregnant again, with my second baby,
But I'm not sure if I want to keep the baby because I am not financially stable. and still a high schooler, teen mom.
But listening to others will not help you much, listen to yourself.
and I believe you will choose the right path.