Is abortion wrong?

[mdmspain]

Hi guys,

I just found out I am three weeks pregnant...I don't know what to do. It is with my boyfriend that I've been dating for six months now and neither of us are in a financial situation to take of it. However, I saw my last roommate go through an abortion and she was in pretty rough shape after it. I am in a moral dilemma...suggestions?

[willis_a]

I believe you still can make it through this pregnancy and afterwards. I myself was in the position too but I still had my child. I also look to Department of Human Service for help. I know you might feel awkward to look into that but that is what it's here for. To help us until we can get ourselves financially stable. Meaning, finishing school, getting a job, and getting our selves into a comfortable situation. Now a days, it is complicating. Because of the economic. But once you go through the pregnancy and hold your infant in your arms, things will change for you.
You will feel very protective, knowing you will have someone to take care of and that will give you the strength, courage, and will to get help from places like DHS, WIC, and Medicaid. Also, other people too. Just give yourself that chance to feel that child inside you and feel it growing.

[mdmspain]

I realize that having a child could be a life-altering experience in a positive way, but I feel that if I provide myself first on a financial basis (i.e. going to school, getting a job, getting a place to stay, etc), I can provide a child well into the future way better than I could now. Sure those services may help to a certain extent but not nearly enough as they need to. Also, the father is a cheating asshole and I am unsure of whether he will provide child support or not. I don't want to do this alone and frankly, it may sound selfish but I don't want to give up my youth - you only live once. Would it be so wrong to terminate and save not only myself, but also the potential child such grief in the future?

[erinw]

It is not a "potential child." It IS a child. By sparing yourself the responsibility and stress you are also sparing its chance at life. If you are sure you're not ready to have a baby please look into adoption. There are many wonderful people out there longing for the baby you may not want. Many are willing to pay your medical expenses.