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Berry
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My angel baby
#42435 - 08/11/05 04:32 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I guess I'll go first. I'm sorry if this is too long, but I just need to get it out. Hal, thank you for starting this forum; It is very timely.
I went for a prenatal visit on Monday, when I was about 11 weeks along. I had an ultrasound about 4 weeks ago to verify my due date because I only had one period since giving birth to DS. I saw the baby's wonderful heartbeat at that time. I assumed that everything was going well after that. I didn't even take anyone to my appointment this time because I had already heard the heartbeat.
On Monday, the midwife couldn't find the heartbeat with the doppler. She sent me for an ultrasound and it showed that the baby had stopped growing and had no heartbeat. It looked about the same size as it was a few weeks ago. DH feels awful that he wasn't there with me, but we in no way expected something like this.
A doctor and one of the midwives came in to talk to me. They offered me the choice of waiting to pass the baby on my own or using some vaginal suppositories (Misoprostol) to stimulate contractions. They also said we could talk about a D&C if I wanted.
I said that I hoped my body would take care of things itself. So far it hasn't. I go back to the midwives offices on Friday morning and I think they will encourage me to take the Misoprostol then to prevent infection since the baby passed away several weeks ago.
This is probably the hardest thing I've ever been through. My mom and DH are wonderful, but almost everyone else has said something like "You can try again. You've got time."(I'm 26). I know they're just trying to help, but they don't seem to understand that my child has died. Even though he or she wasn't born yet, it still hurts a lot. I don't want a replacement baby.
Aside from being devastated, I'm really scared. My biggest fear is leaving DS without a mother. I don't know what a miscarriage is like, but I'm afraid of bleeding too much. I know this is so rare, and I know when to seek help, but I can't get that thought out of my mind.
Thank you if you've read all this. If you have had a miscarriage and would like to share your story, I would really appreciate it. It's nice to know that I'm not alone.
Berry
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Reged: 03/23/05
Posts: 271
My angel baby
#42435 - 08/11/05 04:32 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I guess I'll go first. I'm sorry if this is too long, but I just need to get it out. Hal, thank you for starting this forum; It is very timely.
I went for a prenatal visit on Monday, when I was about 11 weeks along. I had an ultrasound about 4 weeks ago to verify my due date because I only had one period since giving birth to DS. I saw the baby's wonderful heartbeat at that time. I assumed that everything was going well after that. I didn't even take anyone to my appointment this time because I had already heard the heartbeat.
On Monday, the midwife couldn't find the heartbeat with the doppler. She sent me for an ultrasound and it showed that the baby had stopped growing and had no heartbeat. It looked about the same size as it was a few weeks ago. DH feels awful that he wasn't there with me, but we in no way expected something like this.
A doctor and one of the midwives came in to talk to me. They offered me the choice of waiting to pass the baby on my own or using some vaginal suppositories (Misoprostol) to stimulate contractions. They also said we could talk about a D&C if I wanted.
I said that I hoped my body would take care of things itself. So far it hasn't. I go back to the midwives offices on Friday morning and I think they will encourage me to take the Misoprostol then to prevent infection since the baby passed away several weeks ago.
This is probably the hardest thing I've ever been through. My mom and DH are wonderful, but almost everyone else has said something like "You can try again. You've got time."(I'm 26). I know they're just trying to help, but they don't seem to understand that my child has died. Even though he or she wasn't born yet, it still hurts a lot. I don't want a replacement baby.
Aside from being devastated, I'm really scared. My biggest fear is leaving DS without a mother. I don't know what a miscarriage is like, but I'm afraid of bleeding too much. I know this is so rare, and I know when to seek help, but I can't get that thought out of my mind.
Thank you if you've read all this. If you have had a miscarriage and would like to share your story, I would really appreciate it. It's nice to know that I'm not alone.