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joncarlomom
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Loc: Upstate NY help for a friend
#42248 - 03/04/06 04:19 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
Last week, My dear friend lost her son when she was 17 weeks pregnant. I can t imagine her pain and grief- anyone here have any suggestions on any special things I could do for her and her dh?
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Murphy's Law
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Loc: Red Sox Nation Re: help for a friend
#42249 - 03/05/06 09:28 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
Hi there. I was hoping someone else would respond too! But I see it's been a few days, so I'll jump in here. I've suffered a similar loss recently. In January I lost an 18 weeker, in addition to losing my 4 month old son in 2002. I can't really say for sure what might help your friend and her dh. Grief is a very personal thing. Everyone handles it differently. That said, a nice journal may be helpful to her. Or a box where she can treasure the few memories she does have of her baby (ultrasound pictures, footprints, certificate of life/death, etc.) Our hospital gave us a picture of our son (the 18 weeker).
Also, if she gave the baby a name, please use it when speaking about the baby. A bereaved mom can never hear her child's name enough! Maybe some sort of ornament or plaque with the child's name on it would be helpful. Or a tree planted in the baby's name, or a donation to the hospital or a particular charity in the child or family's name. It's hard to offer suggestions because everyone handles things differently. I hope I've given you some ideas.
I'm open to talking if you think it would be helpful for your friend.
Take care.
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Mrs. R
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#42250 - 03/08/06 11:36 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I too, know the pain all too well and have a few trinkets that do bring me comfort.
As ML stated, everyone grieves differently so what works for one, may not help another.
I also really appreciate things with my babys name, I have a wooden keepsake box with a beautiful tile that I have saved rose petals from when she was alive.
I also have a beautiful figurine with her name on it, if you know the babys name, you could get something personalized and that would be nice.
There is also another thread here on this forum by me in reference to the unborn that go to God: this is a great web site to pass on to your friend. They have a book of life where they will put babys name and have daily masses to pray for baby and family~ I thought this was very touching.
joncarlomom
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Reged: 01/31/06
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Loc: Upstate NY help for a friend
#42248 - 03/04/06 04:19 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
Last week, My dear friend lost her son when she was 17 weeks pregnant. I can t imagine her pain and grief- anyone here have any suggestions on any special things I could do for her and her dh?
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Murphy's Law
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Reged: 03/17/05
Posts: 3822
Loc: Red Sox Nation Re: help for a friend
#42249 - 03/05/06 09:28 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
Hi there. I was hoping someone else would respond too! But I see it's been a few days, so I'll jump in here. I've suffered a similar loss recently. In January I lost an 18 weeker, in addition to losing my 4 month old son in 2002. I can't really say for sure what might help your friend and her dh. Grief is a very personal thing. Everyone handles it differently. That said, a nice journal may be helpful to her. Or a box where she can treasure the few memories she does have of her baby (ultrasound pictures, footprints, certificate of life/death, etc.) Our hospital gave us a picture of our son (the 18 weeker).
Also, if she gave the baby a name, please use it when speaking about the baby. A bereaved mom can never hear her child's name enough! Maybe some sort of ornament or plaque with the child's name on it would be helpful. Or a tree planted in the baby's name, or a donation to the hospital or a particular charity in the child or family's name. It's hard to offer suggestions because everyone handles things differently. I hope I've given you some ideas.
I'm open to talking if you think it would be helpful for your friend.
Take care.
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Mrs. R
Amber Rose...in my heart forever
Reged: 03/17/05
Posts: 21035
Loc: Phila., Pa Re: help for a friend
#42250 - 03/08/06 11:36 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I too, know the pain all too well and have a few trinkets that do bring me comfort.
As ML stated, everyone grieves differently so what works for one, may not help another.
I also really appreciate things with my babys name, I have a wooden keepsake box with a beautiful tile that I have saved rose petals from when she was alive.
I also have a beautiful figurine with her name on it, if you know the babys name, you could get something personalized and that would be nice.
There is also another thread here on this forum by me in reference to the unborn that go to God: this is a great web site to pass on to your friend. They have a book of life where they will put babys name and have daily masses to pray for baby and family~ I thought this was very touching.