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milkandhoney
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A year past what would have been my due date ...
#42179 - 05/23/06 12:37 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
Yesterday was one year after what my due date would have been for the baby that I miscarried last year.(That was that long, long miscarriage that took forever because my doctor wouldn't do a D&C ...)
I had the strangest experience last year at around this time, and now, during the past week, I have been having it again. I see a small, dark form quickly running through the halls. At first I think, is it my son? But this happens even at night, when he is fast asleep. It is not DS I see. I think it is the spirit of my lost baby.
In what realm does my lost baby live? Is (s)he in any pain? Does (s)he know me? Is there anything I can do to somehow help? What is this vision coming to tell me?
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crystal torres
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Re: A year past what would have been my due date ...
#42180 - 05/23/06 01:05 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
When I had my first miscarriage about 2 yrs ago at 5 months I too had a similar experience. It happened so often, the lights would flicker if I was thinking about him or said his name, even my DH was spooked cuz hesaid eh always felt like someone was around and he is not a believer in spirits. Your baby is in heaven and no not in any pain. Yes they know you, they come to us in teh form that we knew them in so that we will not be frightened if we see them but in heaven they are the angels they were before deciding to come back to Earth. Help? You can continue to talk to the baby and let them know its alright, and that you still think about them and love them very much. It not necessarily coming to tell you anything but knows that you are still mourning them and come to comfort you. Hope that helps
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Kristen
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#42181 - 05/24/06 02:25 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have any answers for you but I just wanted to assure you that your baby is in no pain. H/She is a perfect little angle playing with all the other little ones that were taken too soon (my son included). Maybe your child is just coming to say 'hello' and to show you that everything is alright!
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milkandhoney
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Re: A year past what would have been my due date ...
#42182 - 05/23/06 04:09 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
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Originally posted by crystal torres:
When I had my first miscarriage about 2 yrs ago at 5 months I too had a similar experience. It happened so often, the lights would flicker if I was thinking about him or said his name, even my DH was spooked cuz hesaid eh always felt like someone was around and he is not a believer in spirits.
Yes, that happens to me too. Loved ones around me will also see something just as I am seeing that form running in the hall.
Your baby is in heaven and no not in any pain.
I hope so. It is just that my baby wound up being inside me for 3-4 months after (s)he died ... until the surgery was finally performed. (Missed miscarriage, and two idiotic ob-gyns until I finally got an appointment with a reproductive endocrinologist.) I wonder if somehow being in limbo all that time --- not being able to return to God --- has kept my baby in limbo ... I hope not, and that (s)he has found peace.
Help? You can continue to talk to the baby and let them know its alright, and that you still think about them and love them very much.
Yes, that is a good idea.
It not necessarily coming to tell you anything but knows that you are still mourning them and come to comfort you. Hope that helps
Oh, yes, that helps so much. Thank you.
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#42183 - 05/23/06 11:28 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
*hugs*
I'm sorry for the loss of your dc. I hope you can find peace. I believe you baby is in heaven. I lost one at 10 weeks pregnant, I feel deeply that it was a girl. I saw her heart beat on u/s and lost her 3 days later. Our dc are on the otherside waiting to welcome us when our time is due.
Maybe you can plant a tree or garden in loving memory of your sweet angel.
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Mary Mary
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#42184 - 05/24/06 09:03 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
You're in my thoughts.
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pinky
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#56720 - 05/30/06 02:23 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I'm so sorry for your bad experience with the OB's.
Why on earth do doctors think its ok for a mother's mental status to keep a baby inside of her body that has passed? That is just crazy. Being pregnant, and knowing you will not deliver a sweet healthy baby is just torture. I'm so sad for you.
I agree your son is in heaven. He is at peace, and I don't think he's in limbo. His soul went to heaven the moment he passed away.
I don't know if you are a christian, but the Bible says to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. His spirit left his body and went to be with the Lord. The very second he died, before you even knew you lost him, he was in heaven.
I believe that 100%. I hope you can find peace.
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A year past what would have been my due date ...
#42179 - 05/23/06 12:37 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
Yesterday was one year after what my due date would have been for the baby that I miscarried last year.(That was that long, long miscarriage that took forever because my doctor wouldn't do a D&C ...)
I had the strangest experience last year at around this time, and now, during the past week, I have been having it again. I see a small, dark form quickly running through the halls. At first I think, is it my son? But this happens even at night, when he is fast asleep. It is not DS I see. I think it is the spirit of my lost baby.
In what realm does my lost baby live? Is (s)he in any pain? Does (s)he know me? Is there anything I can do to somehow help? What is this vision coming to tell me?
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crystal torres
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Re: A year past what would have been my due date ...
#42180 - 05/23/06 01:05 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
When I had my first miscarriage about 2 yrs ago at 5 months I too had a similar experience. It happened so often, the lights would flicker if I was thinking about him or said his name, even my DH was spooked cuz hesaid eh always felt like someone was around and he is not a believer in spirits. Your baby is in heaven and no not in any pain. Yes they know you, they come to us in teh form that we knew them in so that we will not be frightened if we see them but in heaven they are the angels they were before deciding to come back to Earth. Help? You can continue to talk to the baby and let them know its alright, and that you still think about them and love them very much. It not necessarily coming to tell you anything but knows that you are still mourning them and come to comfort you. Hope that helps
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Kristen
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Loc: California Re: A year past what would have been my due date ...
#42181 - 05/24/06 02:25 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have any answers for you but I just wanted to assure you that your baby is in no pain. H/She is a perfect little angle playing with all the other little ones that were taken too soon (my son included). Maybe your child is just coming to say 'hello' and to show you that everything is alright!
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milkandhoney
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Re: A year past what would have been my due date ...
#42182 - 05/23/06 04:09 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
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Originally posted by crystal torres:
When I had my first miscarriage about 2 yrs ago at 5 months I too had a similar experience. It happened so often, the lights would flicker if I was thinking about him or said his name, even my DH was spooked cuz hesaid eh always felt like someone was around and he is not a believer in spirits.
Yes, that happens to me too. Loved ones around me will also see something just as I am seeing that form running in the hall.
Your baby is in heaven and no not in any pain.
I hope so. It is just that my baby wound up being inside me for 3-4 months after (s)he died ... until the surgery was finally performed. (Missed miscarriage, and two idiotic ob-gyns until I finally got an appointment with a reproductive endocrinologist.) I wonder if somehow being in limbo all that time --- not being able to return to God --- has kept my baby in limbo ... I hope not, and that (s)he has found peace.
Help? You can continue to talk to the baby and let them know its alright, and that you still think about them and love them very much.
Yes, that is a good idea.
It not necessarily coming to tell you anything but knows that you are still mourning them and come to comfort you. Hope that helps
Oh, yes, that helps so much. Thank you.
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Amber
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Loc: Florida Re: A year past what would have been my due date ...
#42183 - 05/23/06 11:28 PM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
*hugs*
I'm sorry for the loss of your dc. I hope you can find peace. I believe you baby is in heaven. I lost one at 10 weeks pregnant, I feel deeply that it was a girl. I saw her heart beat on u/s and lost her 3 days later. Our dc are on the otherside waiting to welcome us when our time is due.
Maybe you can plant a tree or garden in loving memory of your sweet angel.
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Mary Mary
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Loc: Mid-West Re: A year past what would have been my due date ...
#42184 - 05/24/06 09:03 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
You're in my thoughts.
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pinky
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Loc: on the wrist of the glove Re: A year past what would have been my due date ... [Re: Mary Mary]
#56720 - 05/30/06 02:23 AM Edit Reply Quote Quick Reply
I'm so sorry for your bad experience with the OB's.
Why on earth do doctors think its ok for a mother's mental status to keep a baby inside of her body that has passed? That is just crazy. Being pregnant, and knowing you will not deliver a sweet healthy baby is just torture. I'm so sad for you.
I agree your son is in heaven. He is at peace, and I don't think he's in limbo. His soul went to heaven the moment he passed away.
I don't know if you are a christian, but the Bible says to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. His spirit left his body and went to be with the Lord. The very second he died, before you even knew you lost him, he was in heaven.
I believe that 100%. I hope you can find peace.