2 week old using me as a paci

I think my baby is using me as a paci. I have no problem with it but my husband does because when she cries he can't do anything for her. Can I introduce a paci so my husband can soothe her Too?

I think your baby was born about the 3rd? So you are heading into the 3 week growth spurt, and a pacifier at this time is not a good idea. If you are in the car, or you absolutely can't nurse, you could consider letting dh see if she'll take one, but otherwise, nurse nurse nurse.

She was born on the 4th.

Here was the issue we ran into tonight:
I nursed the baby until she fell asleep. Then I gave her to daddy so I could take a shower. I was in the bathroom maybe a minute before I heard the baby start to cry. The entire time I was in the shower (maybe only 15 minutes) she was crying. I came out and my very frustrated husband looked at me and said, "I think she just wants your boob." I took her and she latched on for only a minute or two and didn't eat. She just rubbed her tongue against my nipple. Then she fell back asleep. I feel bad because I'm with her 24/7 and the few moments he gets with her (when she's not attached to me) she's crying.

you could try a pacifier for those kinds of situations, it may or may not work. a 2-3 week old baby still doesn't quite realize and understand being out of the womb. it makes perfect sense to them to be attached 24/7. In the womb they got everything they needed before they even knew they needed it. so they never felt hunger, or aloneness, and now it takes a bit to adjust to those feelings.
dad will get his time. for now, it's just about survival for the family.

Id also say that your dh hasnt learned how your baby likes to be comforted yet. yes, baby needs to eat and yes she is going threw some massive growth spurts right now. but your dh may also be getting frustrated with her easily and has already learned that nursing is the quickest easiest way out of crying and fussing.

with my ds when he was not actualy hungry..I fed him first always but sometimes he just wanted cuddles and a clean finger to suck on. by the time ds was 2 months he learned daddy is fun and great to cuddle and mommy was good for food and cuddles when daddy wasnt home. at three, even though I bf ds and am still the sahp ds is all over dh the instant he gets home.

That's probally true. My husband hasn't been 100% on board with me breastfeeding. He is supportive and he is getting better, but I know he's frustrated with it. I hope he doesn't end up resenting me for it. I told him when I got pregnant I was going to bf. He actually tried to talk me out of it. He has 2 other kids and his ex bottle fed with formula. So his argument is, "they turned out fine." i had to put my foot down early on and I told him I was going to bf and it was one thing I am not willing to compromise on. He hasn't made any negative coments in a while but I know he doesn't agree with it. So he may not be trying to soothe her and may be using bfing as an excuse.

Im so sorry he is not more supportive and helpfull. its tough enough to breastfeed sometimes, when your closest family is argumentitve or unhelpfull it makes you feel worse. over time your dh will see just how good the breastfeeding is for your baby. I too would put my foot down and not compromise on the breastfeeding. eventualy hopefully your dh will learn and be on the same page as you. I would try and have some upfront and honest talks about it though and I wouldnt harbor guilt if he chooses to resent something. thats his own problem. nursing is actualy such a short short time in your childs life and as parents. even if your dh still has his own issues with breastfeeding eventualy you will wean and it will be a mute point.

In time your DH may come to see your breastfeeding the baby as a wonderful gift.

My DH was frustrated with trying to soothe and care for the baby at first, too. With our first, it was hard for him. He didn't have any idea of how to handle things or how they would go. With our second, things changed a lot for him. Now he is a sling expert. We got in a routine of me nursing baby in the morning and then handing the baby to dad to put in the sling and carry around while making breakfast.

Before long all of us liked this routine: me (I got a peaceful shower and when baby was older, a morning run!), dad (who got happy baby time), and baby (who really learned to love being carried around by daddy.

Give it time. These first few weeks are hard for all of you. But the nursing relationship changes in time, as baby gets older. And my experience is that breastfed babies eventually have a STRONGER bond to their daddies- and vice versa. They become extremely attached. You form the foundation for this by giving baby lots and lots and lots of snuggle time, lots of face and skin time. It leads to babies who make very strong attachments, first with you, and then with other people.

Wait and see.

hello, I am also new to breastfeeding. My husband gets frustrated but its my mother that is pushing bottles and formula like every 5 minutes. She even says things like 'you know they make fomula that has all the benefits of breastfeeding'... or that I am being selfish by breastfeeding. As for DH, our routine is I feed and he burps our baby. Micah (our new little one) is only 18 days old amd we are just now adjusting to breastfeeding well. I was put on a nipple shield in the hospital for latch problems so we are weaning from that as well. Stick to your guns if you are adimate about breastfeeding. DH will come around. Just make his efforts feel important too...

My husband was great about breastfeeding (mostly because it was free) but I always tried to make sure they had some time together as well. It's hard in the beginning when all they want it to nurse 24/7 but it's what they need! Maybe your husband could learn to wear the baby in a wrap or sling to get some skin to skin time (which helps with the bonding) and could help the crying as well. Or like someone above suggested, your DH could do the burping.