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Posted On 08/13/2008 00:23:48 by chadsgal6
Lily is now 7weeks old. We are doing better as the days go by even though we have some days where nursing isn't our best. Sometimes I feel bad that I get a little annoyed when she seems to want to nurse all day long and all night long. Somedays it feels like I never get to put her down. This always tends to be when I would like to take a shower, eat a hot meal, go potty, talk to visiting friends, go online, sleep.

The shower is where I destress, it always has been. Now every time I try to jump in, she is screaming and crying by the time I get out, no matter how quick I try to be. I've fed her before hand, changed her, waited for someone else to be here so they could hold her, and even waited til she napped, nothing changes. Now I feel rushed and even more stressed out by taking a shower than I felt before getting in.

I've gotten used to the no hot meals, I understand that it is now a thing of my past but it doesn't stop me from missing them.

As for all the others, it is a cryfest. It's like some days, if she's not nursing, she's crying. I am extremely greatful that it is not everyday but being as I do have things that I need to do, it's not exactly constructive.

Near the end of August my son starts back at school. We don't have a car so we take the bus (3 of them to be exact) to get there. In order for us to be at Kristopher's school by 8am, we have to leave our house by 630am and then I won't get back home until 930am. In order to pick him up by 3pm I have to leave here at 120pm. We have been doing trial goes for about a week and it is not going very well. No matter when I wake her up, she is hungry at the time we need to leave, so she is crying for 1/3 mile it takes to get to the bus stop. I know that that is not a very long way but it seems to take forever with a tearful baby.

I would like to "wear" the baby for these walks (at least til winter. I'm a little too scared that I'd fall and hurt her on ice and snow) to make it a little easier for us to get going. Lugging the carseat/stroller combo out of the house and up the road when you need to get somewhere is a little much to do when I'm already sleep deprived. I purchased slings that would fit my larger size and no matter what, I cannot figure out how to put her in it. If I do manage to put her in, she's not facing the right way, she looks all askew, and she starts to cry.

I really didn't want this blog to be so negative but I guess more was getting to me than I had realized. Some days I feel like I've got the handle on things and other days I feel grossly inadequate. Thanks for being there. I'll try for something more upbeat next.

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From: LianeV
08/17/2008 00:53:40

Surely in St. Louis they have La Leche League meetings as well as other nursing mothers' groups. LLL women are generally baby-wearing and a great source of support for a mom in a situation like yours. There may even be someone who lives nearby and may be able to co-op on the trip to school bc they have a child going that way too. The time spent transporting back and forth like you mentioned seems a bit unreasonable. I think anyone would find that stressful. Consider that you may be so stressed with your responsibilities at this stage that your baby feels that and is uncomfortable bc she feels your being extra stressed-out. Goodness, it doesn't even sound like you can get a decent nap in during the day without worrying about oversleeping. You just had a baby, you know.

I strongly urge you to get in touch with a a group and even though you feel like it'll add to your already hectic schedule -- go. Studies have actually found that when nursing women get together in a room, there's a spike in their prolactin and oxytocin levels. This makes us feel better. At least give the local LLL leader a call. They are generally very wise and patient women who are good at helping us see practical solutions to things that stress nursing moms out. 

Good luck and Happy Nursing! 

From: rissa523
08/14/2008 11:47:52
My baby is only 4 weeks old and I feel the same way about showering. Actually, showering, eating, all of it. Since she's my first I don't have the school travel problem, but I am hopeful that all will go well for you. You certainly are a dedicated mom to be nursing and doing all that work to take your other child to school. Good 4 U! Sometimes its okay to be negative. All of your feelings are completely valid and thats refreshing. Lately, I've been thinking I was crazy for having a baby, but I think its just part of the roller coaster of emotions that comes from bringing a baby into one's home. The only thing I have found to be able to take a shower (because even if she's sleeping she'll wake up when I leave her) is to bring a mat into the bathroom and lay it on the floor. I think lay an unbreakable mirror far enough away on the ground that she can see her reflection. And I shower with part of the curtain open so I can see her. She likes the sound of water and can hear me talk to her when she starts getting upset, also she likes to look at the baby in the mirror and talk to her own reflection. She gets her tummytime, I get my mommytime. I even got to shave my legs last time. Just remember you can handle what life throws at you, even when it seems really hard sometimes. It seems that way because it is hard, but not impossible.


From: Teresa64
08/13/2008 10:45:04
http://www.goo-ga.com/productinfo/sling

this site has some wonderful instructional videos on wearing your baby.  I found it to be a big help!!!  Don't worry things do get a little easier.  As for baby crying..sometimes u have to let them fuss.  Do everything for her u can and if she is still fussing while you shower then don't stress about it.  It is not going to acually hurt her to fuss for a few minutes.  Things do get better!!!!!



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