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Needed to vent about my husband.
Posted On 05/11/2008 20:51:42 by intokermit

Happy Freaking Mother’s Day to me. This entire day has sucked ass, and sucked bad. Day started out with my husband yelling at me, because he had to get up early for church. Not a Happy Mother’s Day, honey, sorry you were up all night with our son and had to get up at 5 am to make sure everything was ready for church. Nothing. Get to church and the first person to tell me Happy Mother’s Day wasn’t my hubby, but a sweet old lady at the front door. All thru out church, people were coming up to me, telling me happy mother’s day, as it is my first one. Not a word from my husband. The husband’s got their wives roses that the children were selling, not mine. He didn’t get me a card, nothing. My mom begged us to go out to lunch with them, otherwise I would’ve had to come home and cook lunch. No, he wouldn’t have done it. It doesn’t surprise me that he didn’t do anything for me; he didn’t get me anything for our anniversary. I got him a card, gave him a small gift, and nothing for me. I got nothing for Valentine’s Day. It’s not that I really wanted anything for Mother’s Day, but a card would’ve been nice. He acts like he doesn’t appreciate what I do for him or our son anyway. He always makes comments about how I’m failing at something, like breastfeeding because it’s taking so long for my son and me to get the hang of it. He would rather spend his time, when he gets home from work, on his computer. He gets mad if I need him to take our son for a little bit so I can shower! I’m really tired of feeling alone and not appreciated. I make sure that his house is clean, his meals are cooked, his laundry is clean and put away. He never says a word. I think that he feels that saying I love you once a day should just make up for all times he ignores me. There are times that I wish… Well, I’ll leave that alone. Wish in one hand, shit in another and see which one fills up first. So happy fucking mother’s day to me. Oh, and in case you’re wondering, yeah, I had to make supper today as well, while he played his computer games.



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From: Bridget1977
06/16/2008 21:14:05
I hear ya! My hubby 4got our wedding anniv for 3 years in a row!!! and were only married for 6! Men are just dumb some times! thats why we have women because we dont 4get stuff usually ha! well happy belated mothers day. ttyl


From: intokermit
05/12/2008 15:27:27
Wow! I just needed to vent, never expected so many people to comment! I do plan on talking with him. I know that he just doesn't think like I do, and he doesn't find these things important. I can't say that his mom should have done a better job raising him, as she was incredible abusive and now is dead. I know that I need to talk to him, and I really like the idea about writting down my feelings, as I tend to do alot of blubbering and crying when I am upset about something. It's good to know that I'm not the only one out there that feels this way! Oh, and one of you mentioned me stop cleaning the house, etc. I can't do that. I'm seriously OCD when it comes to cleaning. Thank you all for your outpouring of support!


From: Landonsmilkmaid
05/12/2008 14:27:43
Been there, done that!! My husband has done the samething to me, and it hurts, so bad. When I am hurt like that the best thing for me to do,is to write him a letter, that way, I can carefully monitor the tone, and words. If I was to say those things it would set him on the deffensive, and it would be a fight, so I write them, that way, by the time he reads it, I am much calmer. Or I have waited a few days, and then said what was on my mind. This past Christmas my husband didn't get me anything, not even a card. So, he sat at his computer, on Christmas day, bidding (Ebay) on an item that I have wanted since we got married nine years ago. I didn't say anything but I was MAD. I didn't want this item to be "I'm a fool, so I bought you what you've been wanting present". I want it to be special. Thankfully he didn't win it, and a few days later, I told him I was glad, and why. We didn't fight but I made my point. So, Mother's Day came, and I got what I wanted early, because he took the time to do something about it. So, maybe they do grow up. I have made up in my mind to train my son, so that one day his wife doesn't say to me that he forgot her.  I don't want my son to be self absorbed like the generations of men, before him. Oh, ya, another thing I do, if my husband complains about something not being done the way he likes it or when he thinks it should be done, I say, "Gee thanks Emily, for giving birth to my children, cleaning my home, buying my groceries, not spending my hard earned money, cooking, etc... " He usually doesn't say anything after I say that  I also, tell him I am taking a girls day, and that he, not his mother, will be watching our children. After a few hours, with the three of them, on his own, he has a new appreciation for me. You do need to talk to him about what you feel, or you will end up bitter, and that it not good for any marriage.



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